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writes:Hey all, My boyfriend and I of 2 years broke up about 2.5 months ago. He's in the Marine Corp and it really wasn't a mutual break up, nor a pleasant one. I wanted to stay in the relationship but he felt he was no good for me (not sure if that was a line..). Since then, he called me drunk once but I was sleeping and woke up to 5 missed calls. I texted him later and I got no reply. I texted him today to wish him a Happy 4th and said that I hope he is doing well. He never answered and now I feel like a complete idiot. I miss him in my life, we agreed that we could be friends eventually but not right away. I thought 2.5 months was an ample amount of time but maybe I was wrong. The problem is, I can't get him out of my head. I'm definitely not over him and it affects my mood and I'm starting to get really down on myself. I am not the type of person to continuously text him if I don't get a reply but it's going to really annoy me if he doesn't answer me back. I just can't seem to move on but I think he has and it's just eating away at me. If anyone has any suggestions, I would greatly appreciate it! Thank you for your time.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (5 July 2012):
 You could not have gotten a better answer than from Dorothy Dix. Most of us have had the unfortunate experience of having to get over someone. Sometimes more than once. We know what you're going through, but you must find something to help distract yourself from sitting around constantly thinking about him and what you could have done to make things work. I know you want to make things work, but like DD said, just give him space. If things are meant to work, they will work out. Be glad you were sleeping when he called. You certainly don't want to talk to him while he is drunk. Give him space, don't communicate with him, and try to get yourself out of the house to do some things you enjoy doing. Take small steps everyday and you will find that you will feel better. We know it is hard and we are thinking about you.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (5 July 2012):
Hi there. Because he is in the marines, that probably also means that he goes away on deployment fairly regularly, is that right?
And so it's possible also, that he feels it is unfair to you, to always be waiting for him, and feeling lonely a lot of the time.
This could be his reason for ending the relationship with you.
And because the breakup was instigated by him, well then all the more reason for you to give him some space.
And by giving him space, I mean let him initiate any contact from now on.
Don't call or text him anymore now, as you didn't get the outcome you hoped for the last time, so don't go down that path again.
It serves no purpose.
And wait for him to contact you instead.
No matter how long it is before you hear from him again.
Even if the same thing happens - 5 missed calls - still DO NOT return his call - or his texts either.
Let him keep trying until he actually catches you.
Believe me, if he really wants to talk to you, he will keep on trying until he does.
No matter how long that is.
So now, you need to be patient.
And in the meantime, go out and enjoy yourself with your friends and start enjoying your life again.
It won't hurt him to call home and to find that you ARE NOT there.
What it WILL DO, is keep him on his toes a little, and it will make him wonder who you are out with!
Life could become rather interesting from now on.
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