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22-25,
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writes:There is this guy on my college course and I really like him. We are quite close to each other and he knows I like someone in our class. The problem is he's kissed me a few times and flirts with me and then he can be really cold to me. I don't know if I should tell him its him I like and I don't know what to think of his actions. Please help! Xxx
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reader, Petina57 +, writes (27 January 2016):
 He's kissing you then going cold. Stop kissing him, find out if he has feelings for you, otherwise it may lead to more serious things like sex then going cold on you. Be careful. Try not to kiss him anymore unless you know what his true intentions are, he could be just using you for a quick thrill. Hope this helps
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 January 2016):
 But he must know already that you like him, because you kiss him ! Why would you accept and kiss a guy whom you don't like- unless you are a girl that just kisses everybody just for the heck of it ?!
So, I suppose you'd have to be brave and do more than just telling him " I like you " , to which his logical answer could be " I know, don't we always kiss each other ?"
If you want to see changes in the current status quo, then you'd have to ASK him to give you a chance and try dating you. Being aware though, that there is the possibility of a rejection.
Since yes, it's possible that you two are stuck at kiss-and - flirt because he is young and clumsy and oblivious, because HE thinks YOU just want to kiss occasionally , because he is shy etc.etc.
But it's also very possible that he is fine with the way things are and he is fine kissing you occasionally for a bit of casual fun, but does not want a gf , or does not want YOU as a GF.
In fact, if he was older I'd say that second case is the most probable one, because I have noticed time and again how , at the end of the day, if a man wants something he will go for it, .... and if he does not, it's just because he does not want that something so much, after all.
But, being a 16-17 kid, who knows. I am hesitant to label him as a player who manipulates you by blowing hot and cold. Maybe at his age he is just only goofy and clueless !
Nothing ventured nothing gained, they say.. and I agree , in general, it just depends how you would handle a rejection. If you could feel the sting a bit BUT move onto the next cute classmate :) without too much drama , then by all means go for it.
If instead, in case it's a no-go, you 'd kick up a big fuss, and distract yourself from your studies, and make your family and friends miserable..... then maybe not; just keep it at the kiss-and-flirt stage until someone less wishywashy shows up for you !
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