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writes:hey everyone. One of my friends is really attracted to me. Im attracted to him too and we like to talk to each other. We have been talking for a long time and sometimes we talk about sex and turn each other on. Well as time went on, he got a girlfriend and I was kinda disappointed but then i just figured that there are more fish in the sea and forgot about him.Yesterday we started talking for the first time in awhile and he really wants to see me. He says that I am sooo beautiful and nice and that he really wants to pleasure me and cuddle me and have sex. I asked him if he had a girlfriend and he said yes but she will never find out. I told him that I didnt want to do that since he had a gf cause it would hurt her feelings. (I want to have sex with him but it wouldnt be right as hes in a relationship so I said no.) He kept asking me and saying that he wants to have sex with me and it would not hurt him. I really dont know what to do. I really like this guy and want to make him happy but hes in a relationship right now and i feel that it would not be right to have sex with him since I know that hes in a relationship. Im single but i dont know what to do.Please help....what do you think of this situation, why does he wanna have sex with me when hes in a relationship? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey Everybody!!!!!
Thanks for all the advice and I think I made the right decision. I think he didnt choose me as the girlfriend cause I live in Florida and he lives in New York. I used to live in New York but then I moved and kept in touch with him as a friend. He found out i was comming back to NY to do an internship college credit program at a hospital up here and wanted to mess around even tho he had a gf.
I dont know what is up with him but I dont think I should mess with him.....i just realized that he may even have an STD since it appears he goes to look for booty calls whilst being in a relationship.
Thanks again for all your answers. :)
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reader, junebug +, writes (18 August 2008):
he is an ass and dont ever get into stuff like this it never turns out good. At least u thought about his girlfriend so hey just look at her.what would u do if u were in her shoes and ur b/f does this behide ur back.dont do it not even a one night stand bcuz he will think it will happen again and again.he is a loser and i can tell her much better than that! Xoxojunebugxoxo
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reader, ask paige  +, writes (18 August 2008):
 look it seems like this guy has cheated on his girlfriend more then once and is using you as a booty call, but dont fall for it dont YOU become the other woman trust me you dont want that on your concious even if you dont know his girl you wont be able to live with yourself and been seen as a "homewreaker" dont sink to his level you dont need him, and now he will be expecting you to say yes cuz he knows you like his so say no and that will be a real slap in the face and maybe he will realize hes NOT "all that" good luck i know its hard but if your a good person you will make the right decision xx
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reader, Holly D +, writes (18 August 2008):
oh dear, it does sound like you really like this boy and that is why it is so difficult. however it does seem one sided. while you are talking about really liking him, wanting to make him happy, being cuddled. he is talking about nothing but sex, keeping you a secret and how even it wont hurt him- he hasn't mentioned if you will get hurt by it. It does not seem like he is thinking about you or your feelings. Although it is hard i think it is clear that although he does want sex with you,thats it, he doesn't love or appreciate you as a person. To be honest you sound quite lovely to me and i think deserve someone, who will love you, be proud to show you off and you fancy the pants off.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (18 August 2008):
 Because he wants his cake and eat it, and is what we generally refer to as a ****
In simple terms a bad boy. He doesn't want you for girlfriend material, just a shag. Maybe his girlfriend didn't chat about sex to him when he was only a friend and he sees her as a keeper and you as a lay. I mean, he was single before, why didn't he choose you as a girlfriend back then?
Hmmmmm
C xxxxx
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reader, AnnalovesJrock +, writes (18 August 2008):
 If you wanna have sex with him because of LUST, fine - just go for it so uL get over it. BUT if u feel something for him, DON'T uL end up hurting urself.. uL regret it the fact that he's going out with someone. If he really likes you, he'll take care of his unfinished business and will pursue you.. ONLY FOOLS RUSH IN =)
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 August 2008):
 If he does this to his girlfriend, he'll do it to you. He is showing you his character. Not very pleasant.
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