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36-40,
*essica parker
writes:I loved this guy for 7 yrs and 2 yrs back i came to know that he loved someone else while we had a relationship. And when i came to know about it i said i dint want to continue the relation. He said he liked me but never felt committed towards me. I asked if he never loved me why he said he luved me. But after that he asked me to be friends with him and we stayed friends from then, friendship for name sake but i still luved him and thought he will luv me back one day. He was never happy with me, but wanted me, even if i stop callin him he used to come back to me. Then one day i came to find out that he is havin a new girlfriend. With whom he is appearing to be happy with. and when i asked him , he said he was never comfortable with me but this gal is really nice. I know he is always charming and luvs flirting with gals. I feel like being cheated. I dont luv him anymore, but cant stop thinking of him and whatever he said of me, and he being happy with someone else when he was not happy with me makes me jealous..Helpp..
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reader, huneygyrl  +, writes (7 January 2009):
 I would feel like he cheated on me as well.
Some guys can be !@#holes, so can gals. I do know how you feel. It's harder for someone just to move on from a 7 year relationship unfortunately, you have to, for you sake.
It'll take time.
Feel the pain, cope with it and then...move on.
Good luck!!
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (7 January 2009):
 I hate that you have been hurt hon but sometimes we have to face the fact that a person, no matter how much we love them may not love us back in return. It doesn't mean that they are bad people but that it wasn't meant to be. Unfortunantly not everyone who picks a mate will pick one that is really the most compatable.
If you once loved him and he is happy now with someone else,be glad that you are FREE to move on and FIND someone who will be what you want and need. Someone who will give you what you have missed in your past relationship. It's human nature to feel a bit of rejection and somewhat jealous feeling too. Remember though that jealousy is a green eyed monster and it will DEVOUR you if you aren't careful. It's best to let the past go so you can reach out and have a chance at a better future. If you live in the PAST, the PRESENT won't THRIVE long enough to ever make way for a good FUTURE.
LET IT GO and wish him well. What matters most isn't how you lived the past but how you choose to live the present and in turn your Future. By letting him go and giving him your blessings you will start to heal and in time what happened then won't matter nearly as much. Everything we do in life changes how we look at life but if you live long enough you will see that some things weren't really that important at all. Time and age can make you see things completely different.
Let go and do it with GRACE you WILL BE BLESSED for it!
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, kliciouss +, writes (7 January 2009):
 this is the similar to what i have just been through. when you love someone for that long it is very hard to let go. i broke up with my ex and i regretted it. we were going to work it out but he didn't seem to really care anymore. so i stopped talking to him for a while to let him cool down from the pressuring. a week later i called him back and to my complete shock and surprise, he had a new girlfriend which he seems really happy with. maybe there were some issues he had with you that he couldn't bear anymore. for me, i had a lot of trust issues from my past relationship and also i play hard to get too much. he is young and i guess he couldn't take it anymore and went for someone easier. don't think that anything is wrong with you. i know that you will be thinking about him a lot and it will be the hardest thing in the world. everything takes time. you are young and you don't need to devote yourself to one person, especially if he moved on. you should show confidence and go out a lot. keep yourself busy and resort to a good support system, like hang out with your friends. as long as you feel happy and confident about yourself. someone else will find you special and then he will be the one jealous. jealousy is evil. someone special will come your way. don't show him how much you suffer by being jealous. the more you do, no matter how much he loves you, he will just laugh silently to himself. be strong. recover, revive, relive. you will be definitely happy, goodluck!
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