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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hiid really like to know how some people find it so easy to talk to new people? I really struggle talking to new people, literally anyone, yet I am friends with a lot of people who find it soo easy.it is really frustrating me because where i am so shy, a lot of people either view me as boring, stand offish or just a not very nice person, which really isnt true. It annoys me to see my friends making so many friends around me, yet whenever I try to do the same, it backfires horribly.Im not a very confident person, so if anyone would be able to give me any tips or help on this issue at all, i would be so grateful. I know confidence and social skills is something you learn, but recently my confidence has been knocked even more, and I just feel a little lost and a little bit alone, as my friends get so wrapped up in their new friends, i fear that they see me in the same light. Boring, standoffish and a horrible person. Maybe Im being paranoid I dont know?Someone please help!Thankyou!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): As you said before it is something that comes natural but just try for the first time talking to new people in a group. Just make witty comments about what everybody is talking about but dont go over the edge with what you dont feel comfortable with.
Then just try it by urself, im mean the first couple times you do it by yourself you dont need to know the entire persons life story.
For example lets say ur in class and the person next to you is saying how much he or she hates the class. Then just make a comment on how its a pointless class or a comment about the teacher. Or if you want to make the first comment just say wats on ur mind and if they dont respnd well then try somewhere else.
Dont give up and keep trying!!!! Hope this helps
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