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writes:hello, im a 19 year old girl, been with my boyfriend for about 4 months, we have a good relationship, however he has a big ego he does love himself to bits, he has an extremly good job for his age of 19 and is a good looking guy, however he told me he is planning on going on a lads holiday next year july for 5 days, n he is confused y i have a problem with it, he told me last time he went on a lads holiday he did have sex with a girl out there, im completly against things like this i dont c y going on holiday is an excuse to get laid by someone u met the same night but i know alot of young boys like this. n i trust he wouldnt cheat on me, but then when i asked did u n your frends have girls back to your place after you went to the clubs he answerd, yeh we always had after parties back at our place. so i said ok would you do the same agin then next year, (expecting he'd say no) but he said yeh y not?. Basically thats a BIG issue for me even though i still dont think he would cheat i think its disrespectful to be in that environment when you have a gf/bf i would never put my self in that situation because i believe there is a line between the single life and relationship life, n i think this is crossing it.He said im not going to ruin my mates fun just because i have a gf. is this acceptable, should i end it with him, is he taking the mick just a little bit, would be very grateful for your advice :(
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 November 2009):
You've only been with him for four months, so it's too early to start worrying about things like this. He's with you, so trust him. If you try to control him over this, then he will walk.
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reader, dazey  +, writes (10 November 2009):
Firstly July is a long way away so take it easy. Bring the issue up nearer the time if you have to.
Secondly you can't expect your boyfriend to avoid all parties unless you're there. One of mine once ended up at a party with an orgy going on in the back room. I didn't ask him if he was true- I didn't need to, the fact he was open about it was enough for me. Cheating boyfriends tend to be much slyer than that.
What I gather that you're saying is that even though you don't think your man would cheat you still don't want him to go on holiday with his mates... just in case. So I guess you don't really trust him. If you don't or can't trust him you'll do both your heads in by trying to control, manipulate or even stalk the guy.
I think you should accept that a 19 year old bloke is gonna love going on lads holidays with his mates and he has every right to party as much as he wants to, and so do you.
End it if you can't trust him, and no, he is not taking the mick at all!
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