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writes:why did i ever have to fall in love with him?hes 22 and im just 13 its cuz his so cute so nice and is always there when i need help, so nice and polite.i dont know how 2 tell him i need him to know but im afraid he will hate me.what can i do help Reply to this Question
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reader, oliviaclairex  +, writes (25 November 2009):
 Although he's 'cute, nice and always there' you need to think about the ages seriously. You're 13, I assume you're going out with your friends, partys etc(: And then think of him who's 22, I don't know anything about him but thinking of a 22 year old he could have a job, and his friends are all older etc.
Therefore you wouldn't be able to do the things he would do anyway. And would you be happy like that? He wouldn't hate you, and it's nice having crushes. But see if you like any of the guys in your year, and then you can go to the cinema together and he will like the things that you like, so you'll be happier(: x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2009): CRUSSSSSSH. Why tell him? It's not like anything shall realistically happen!
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reader, natasia +, writes (21 November 2009):
 I don't think you need to tell him, because I am sure he already knows that you have a crush on him. And you are only 13 - any self-respecting 22-year-old would never even consider having anything with such a young girl. I'm afraid you just have to live with this - I know exactly how it feels - I was also 13, and also had a crush - but it's not something that you need to talk to him about. He surely feels how you feel, but he isn't going to be your boyfriend - well, not until you are at least 16. So can you wait 3 years?
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (21 November 2009):
 I wouldn't tell him if I were you. As close as you maybe as friends, it is more than likely that he doesn't feel the same and it would just make things awkward for the both of you. You can't control who you love so it's in no way your fault that you feel this way.
Try to look at guys your own age.
good luck
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (21 November 2009):
You're not in love, you just have a crush... In his eyes you're a child, if he had any sort of relationship with you, he could get into serious trouble..
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reader, empop +, writes (21 November 2009):
So, this is a difficult situation.When you're 13 and falling in love for the first time, the feeling can be overwhelming. Well, the feeling can always be overwhelming, but unfortunately when you're 13 you have no perspective.The problem you have, I'm afraid, is that if this 22 year old is willing to have any sort of relationship with you, he's probably not the type of guy you should be dating. And, if he is genuinely an awesome guy, he'll probably have to reject you (nicely and politely, of course, but it will still hurt.)What you probably don't know now, that you will eventually learn, is that you will fall in love again. Every time you fall in love, it will feel a little bit different, but every time it will still be wonderful. Knowing this doesn't diminish the disappointment of a lost love, but it helps to give you hope for the future. Next time, hopefully you can find someone a little closer to your own age.If you really feel you must tell him, and think he may genuinely be a good guy, just work up the nerve and ask to speak to him alone. Tell him what you feel honestly descriptively, (for example, that you can't get him off your mind, that you look forward to seeing him, etc.) DO NOT do anything sexual after you tell him this. If he tries aggressively to hook up with you, or sleep with you shortly after that, it is a very bad sign and you should talk to a trusted adult (parent, aunt, guidance councilor, etc.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2009): Don't tell him you’ll just bugger up a good friendship - besides when you turn 14 you'll love somebody else and when you turn 14 1/2 someone else and yet again when you turn 15 etc.
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