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writes:Ok me and my ex split in october just gone, he dumped me to go back with the mother of his daughter, anyway that didn't work out, and we started sleeping together like once a week, as like fuck buddies. We still remain friends but, he's now sleeping with these girls he's met on facebook, he sleeps with 2 of them, I've not slept with him since, but he tells me about these girls. He told me he had sex with this girl 5 times in one night, he never did this with me only once in a night. Now I'm wondering if he did actually like me, all I wanted him to say tonight was yes you were good enough for me but all he says all the time when I ask something like this is... whatever. He also wants to sleep with my friend, he said he always wanted to sleep with her but wouldn't say something to his gf at the time (me) but apparently every time they talk I give them both evils, I don't mean to and don't realise I'm doing it, he says if I don't cut my act of being jealous I will lose him altogether. Ok yes, I do have feelings for him and probably will for a long time, even if he doesn't have for me. He never did show his feelings but he seems to be enjoying shagging around at the moment. It also doesn't help when I always have people saying yes there is still something between us but I don't think there is, if he's telling me about these girls and hasn't asked me out since.Please help me work out my problems, with my questions above, I'm so screwed up at the moment, I feel exhausted Many thanks xxxxxxxxx
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (27 January 2009):
 Hi there, "Lose him altogether" if you don't stop what you are doing? Guress what, that's waht you need to do. What do you have in him? In my estimation, and forgive me because you think you have feelings for him, which I really think are unhealthy, you have much of nothing. He is disrepectful when he tells you details about his encounters with multiple women, he wants to sleep with you as well, which is what you have to do to keep him around I guess. He even wants to sleep with your best friend, and says so to you. Just what are you thinking here? He is a selfish, unkind person. As long as you let him keep treating you in this abusive way, he will keep doing it, stop it now, please.
You need to build your self-esteem, and you will then be able to tell him to get out of your world, go forward to find a much better person, who will really care about you and respect you, this man doesn't know the meaning of the words. If you would, please visit www,socyberty.com/writers/quiet+voice.8137, look for the title "Letting Go: Stop Chasing Ghosts". This article will hopefully give you a better perspectuve on the situation.
You are the most important individual in this situation,
you must love yourself and take care of yourself, even before you can take care of others. Be good to yourself, and do not accept from anyone the way this man has been treating you, you deserve better, and you must begin to realize that. Stay in touch, but please get away from this deplorable situation.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (27 January 2009):
 If he truly cared for you he would never screw around with anyone else let alone actually TELL you about his conquests. What a sleazeball! Get rid of him! He is probably the most serious relationship you've had to date and that's why you find it more difficult to pull yourself away from him but he's a player and he's using you big time!
Stand tall and tell him to grow up next time he boasts about the women he's slept with or wants to sleep with and under no circumstances let him near you again sexually as he's using you and tossing you away again when he feels like it. You do deserve better and until you kick him to the kerb once and for all you'll never find someone else.
My advice... GET RID!!!
~Eve~
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reader, masquerade711  +, writes (27 January 2009):
 In all honesty, this guy sounds like a sleaze. I can understand that you still have feelings for him, but my question is why do you continue to have these feelings? He's treating you like dirt, and you're giving yourself to someone who could really care less once he's satisfied himself.You are so much better than this idiot and you deserve a whole lot more than what you're giving yourself.masq
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reader, emma3110 +, writes (27 January 2009):
leave him
forget about it
you're being used hunny and its not fair.
No1 deserves to be treated like this
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