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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Okay, this may sound really really confusing but I'm just looking for a little guidance.I am female and a senior in high school. Up until this point, I have had no real relationships, which makes me feel almost like something is wrong with me because everyone else I know has. Part of the problem is that I'm really not good at approaching people and flirting etc., so people don't know that I want to be more than friends, and I don't have the confidence to just outright tell them how I feel. And it's strange, because generally I'm a very confident person in other areas of my life but with that, I can become so insecure. Now, recently I kind of started to like this guy in one of my classes. I'm thinking maybe it was just something superficial because I think I liked him more before I started talking to him a lot more recently. Originally, I had the intentions of maybe asking him to be my prom date (but still to go as friends, does that make any sense?). Now I'm confused and am not so sure I want to. I feel like we have barely anything in common, and every conversation is almost a chore to keep it going because he is completely opposite of me. Like, today I found out he even smokes pot! I mean, he's really nice and everything, and can have a sense of humor, but I don't feel like I'm really clicking with him, which is something you need to have with things like that.So now I'm confused as ever, because I think I was either attracted to him in the first place solely based on his looks because he is pretty cute, and because I never got a chance to really talk to him. And inside right now I know I'm not feeling the same way, but it's frustrating because this is the first guy I've gotten to know really well with the intention of possibly being more than friends, and it's not working out. Has the right guy just not come along yet? I don't know, I'm so confused. I just can't believe I haven't had a single relationship in high school yet. And to top it off, there was this really hot guy who I had a crush on since I was a freshman who graduated last year. And I recently found out he's gay. He comes off as being totally straight, and I can't believe this. He was the only guy who gave me such strong butterflies that I've met so far and no wonder nothing worked out between us.I'm sorry this is so long, and confusing, and I don't even know if I'm technically asking a question. I'm just asking for some guidance. Thanks!!
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reader, Demon_2004 +, writes (27 January 2009):
 I learned along time ago the heart wants what it wants. This said I only dated to people. The first was just a friend whom I never see the second is my wife.Not everybody needs to date hundreds of people to find the right one. One or two maybe all you need to find the right one.
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