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writes:I'm 14, I go to church and have met a really nice guy there, he is 16. We have been good friends for a few months and have become really close, it may sound stupid but I think I'm in love with him. We hang around a lot and always just goof around and muck around and tease each other etc, we went to town once and had such a laugh, we found out we have so much in common and he bought be a drink and walked me home and we hugged for ages, we always have long hugs that just make me lose it, he is so dreamy. I like him so much and decided to tell him so I gave him a valentines card with a note telling him how I felt, he was so cool about it. We were texting after he opened it and he said that he was glad I could be honest with him but that it isn't right for him to be in a relationship at the moment. He has never said that he is not intersted. Lots of people think we would make a good couple and that he likes me, some think it may be the age difference. One friend thinks that I should ask him how he feels. I don't know what to do, I love him so much, I'd love for something to happpen between us, it feels like it's meant to be. What do I do?
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reader, BethBabes +, writes (24 March 2009):
BethBabes is verified as being by the original poster of the question i asked him how he felt and he said that at the moment he only sees me as a good friend and he really wants to be a close friend without anything getting in the way.
i really like him, it fully sucks, i cant get over him though like i have with other guys before. suckish much mate init!
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reader, lezlie  +, writes (19 March 2009):
Well if your that crazy about him why havent you asked him how he feels? Sit down and have a chat, or else withstand more months of this.
I cant tell you how you feel, only you know. Get your feelings out in the open and work from there. If he still doesnt want a girlfriend, ask him to elaborate. Ask him why for a start!
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reader, BethBabes +, writes (19 March 2009):
BethBabes is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits really not lust though. and all he said was that he didnt want a girlfrend, we've never really discussed how we feel about eachother.
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reader, lezlie +, writes (19 March 2009):
But if he knows how you feel, and if he was in any way a good friend and conscientious of your feelings, he would have told you his feelings straight away. It seems to me as if hes shy or just doesnt feel the same way for you.
I dont want to sound condescending here, but at your age, i dont think these feelings of 'love' are rational. I think maybe its lust that your feeling instead.
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reader, BethBabes +, writes (18 March 2009):
BethBabes is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe knows how i feel, i gave him valentines card and he was cool with the whole thing. i want to know how he feels because he gives me very different impressions and i'm not sure how he really feels. i'm talking to him on sunday about everything and seeing what happens. oh btw his reason for not going out with me is that its not right for him to have a girlfirned at the moment. its a very confusing situation, thing is...i think i love him :)
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reader, lezlie +, writes (16 March 2009):
It sounds to me as if hes justcomfortable being friends with you. I mean your doing all the things that you would do in a friendship, going to town ,etc. I dont think you should listen to others, they only have an outside look in. Listen to your heart. Dont let others preconceptions muddle your mind. I doubt your going to be able to just let this one go, so sit him down and explain you like him, youd like it to go somewhere, and ask him how he feels about the whole thing. If he still stands by the fact that he doesnt want a reationship you have to respect that, for the sake of your friendship if anything.
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