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writes:Hi I live with a man named Bill and we are having a baby due in April. He says he loves me but I am thinking he is playing mind games with me. He keeps me hidden from his friends and family. He hardly ever wants to take me out. He tells people he is just using me. We don't have no sex, he will go out with his ex or get a chick at a bar. I did fall in love with him but at this point my heart is turning cold. He has hit me and just the other day punched me in the belly. I know I am not a hot chick I am overweight and I lost my front teeth and working on getting them fixed but I still don't feel I should be treated this way. Sometimes I just cry and want to die...
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reader, loveprincess  +, writes (16 March 2009):
 YOU NEED TO LEAVE THIS RELATONSHIP AS IT IS ABUSE
you need to contact someone
he has no respect for you or the beautiful baby inside of you need to stay with family or friends or maybe a shelter or a hostel
good luck
Gabriella
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): Oh my goodness, Dear...you are being abused. Please make plans to leave this relationship before he hurts you and your baby. I don't care how badly you both were arguing or why-but this man lost control and hurt you..he lashed out at you. This was not love. This was an issue over power and control and he lost it. He has an anger management problem and he simply can't be using you as a punching bag whenever he can't get his temper under control. His actions should frighten you tremendously and they should be telling you that something is terribly wrong about him. If you are still there, I have to ask why? Protect your baby. hun..that is top priority here. Please take a good, hard at this situation and realize that this man, even though you love him, attempted to cause harm on you and this unborn baby. Reach out for help from others and seek advisement from a counselor at a domestic violence shelter in your area, especially if you find it difficult to leave him. I would think the people at these shelters can give you some perspective into what can happen to you and any future family you may have with this man. I hope you have the courage and strength to do so, your baby is depending on you. Call today:
National Abuse Hotline
Call them at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
http://www.ndvh.org/
Please do this and get educated. The counselors are trained experts at domestic abuse, they are compassionate and they will help you. Keep us posted on how you make out, dear. Remember, if anything else bothers you, write back here, for support. But please do something about ending this abuse today. Good luck and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): if he hits you call the police. you need to leave him. you dont deserve this no matter how you look. you deserve to be loved and cared for. and just imagine what your baby will go through . is this man really going to be a loving and caring father or will he abuse it just like you. dont just leave for yourself. leave for the child you need to take care of. its ok to cry but dont be inactive. get out .
there are many groups that can help you one support group is at this link.
http://singlemothers.org/cms/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=50
i hope this helps . be strong, you dont have to take this.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (16 March 2009):
 Ok, I am not understanding why you are still with this guy? Is it for the sake of the baby? How do you think it will affect this child to watch Daddy berate, belittle, and abuse Mommy all the time?
Look, this guy is a fucking piece of shit (wow, this is the first time I've sworn here!) You need to leave him. I wouldn't be asking why he hasn't introduced you to his family, but rather what steps you can take to file domestic violence charges against him. For even hitting you in your stomach, he could be locked up.
Leave, report everything he has done to your local police and see what they advise you to do. Oh, and LEAVE!
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reader, lezlie  +, writes (16 March 2009):
Well obviously you do have sex, your pregnant hun. Find it hard to have sympathy for you, why are you still with this man? He has HIT you. And your unborn baby for that matter. If he hits you once, he WILL hit you again. Get out, dont look back, stay with family or friends. If you dont hapent to have either of thos, go stay at a shelter or a hostel until you sort your financial situation out. Have some respect for yourself. And your baby.
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