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writes:I feel so dirty. I find myself looking at porn or toys and playing with myself. Is it normal to be curious at 14? How do I stop myself doing it again? I want to stop cos I know it's wrong but when I'm feeling down or horny I find myself doing it again help!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009): i dont think it will matter to 'god' if you please yourself. anyway it is your life not his...and i believe 'god' doesnt exist. im sure plenty of christians masturbate stop feeling bad and enjoy yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): lol dw its normal.its better if you do this on your alone time when you need it cuz most people do it and it help. I'm 16 and I still do it sometimes just because. I'm christian too so I kno it may feel like a sin at first. don't worry it isn't . I mean maybe doing it to a family member or friends or something like that would be pretty bad but if you just do this rather than screw others or have others screw you, then god won't mind. I mean why would god make us all this curious about it if it was a sin? he wouldn't so enjoy yourself explore find things out with yourself and once your married then try it with your lover. to give you a hint I kno most adults do it and most started at 13 or so. its a way to help yourself and your control. : )Patrick
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): you are normal-not dirty- its the start of a beautiful journey x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah. its not so bad anymore. its just i feel so dirty when i do it or afterwards. i dont look at porn or anything now. its just i want to stop, cos im a christian you see and i want to do right by god. im doing ok atm, i dont want to do it and im not going to. i've prayed and asked god for help and my life is pretty smooth atm all thanks to everything god does for me :) but thanks anyways guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): ok i'm bout your age and i thought that i was doing something wrong to. then one day me and my friends had a sleep over and we just talk about everything. Someone asked me if i did and i said yes. I found out that all of my friends do the same things and it made me feel so much better to know that i wasn't the only one doing that. So don't worry bout it it's pretty normal. Just don't let it effect your school work or hanging out with your friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): Being a teenager you have alot of hormones flying around your body so you get urges to explore your body.
Its completely normal to play around and explore yourself. Its not dirty at all, lots of people watch porn, its a very good buisness. Lots of your friends watch porn or even touch themselves but girls don't tend to talk about it where as boys do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): Relax you are normal. I have to ask why do you think its dirty ? Has that been told to you ? Did you just put the label of dirty on it yourself ? Just Relax and enjoy your new found curiosity. Remember its your body and who better to know and explore your body other than you? You will find what you like and what you do not like and At some point you will be able to tell your b/f, husband, lover what to do to make him a better lover. I mean in the future not anytime soon but if you do get more curious EXPLORE its not the end of the world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): yeah its totally normal :) thats a normal age huni! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): Hi,
Of course it is normal. As long as you don't spend most of your time by touching yourself, it is normal. Because, as human being, we all have sexual reproduction organs and we are only the animals with the dolphins who make sex to have pleasure, not only for reproduction.
So, normally sex is something which must be done by a partner, but if you do not have a partner, you can touch your body to have that pleasure.
Keep on going. Because,nearly all of the men and most of the women are doing the same thing as a secret of their lifes:)
TUNC
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (16 March 2009):
 It is totally normal and you should not feel guilty about this, as a teenager you are still learning about your body and your sexuality so it is common to do these sorts of things as a learning experience to find out what you like.
I imagine it is just a phase at the moment, I went through a similar sort of thing when I was about 13 (not with the porn though, that came later on when I was about 17 or 18). You will grow out of it I'm sure, but for now dont feel guilty. If it is something you need to do and can do in private then it is not hurting anyone so there is no problem with it.
Everyone has urges and everyone gets turned on by different things! The more you make yourself feel guilty, the more you will want to do it because it is something you are not "allowed" to do!
I hope this helps!
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