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writes:I broke up with the guy I was seeing a few weeks ago. There were alot of reasons that broke up with him, even though I cared about him a lot I couldn't see myself with him in the long run, and our personalities were not compatable in the least. Here is my problem: I really miss making love to him, it was unlike anything I have ever experianced before with another person.... It wasn't anything that he did so much as we just seemed to have the perfect sexual chemistry. He has called me a few times since (drunk) and trying to get me to come over but I have refused. The hard thing is that I soooo want to give in and say yes, but I know that it would only make things worse and give him false hope. At this point though I feel that if he called me one more time, I would say yes. What would you do in this situation?
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reader, Caring Stranger  +, writes (15 February 2010):
 hi there,
i completely understand your dilemma. you cared a lot for this guy and feelings like that dont just disappear.
However, you broke up with him for a reason. you said that you were not compatible and cannot see being with him in the future....you are a young woman and should not settle for being with someone just because you enjoyed the sexual side of the relationship. you will someday find a man who ticks all your boxes, not just one. i would hold out for that one!!
in regards to the drunken phonecalls....dont answer them!
i hope you can stay strong and find the happiness you deserve xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (14 February 2010):
I would say no to him. If you say yes to sex and just use him, you will be looking very cruel in everyone's eyes and it could ruin your reputation. You made a decision that you didn't want him in your life as a boyfriend. That's it. You can't pick and choose what you want from him. The poor guy is in love with you, and the best thing you can do if you think you will say yes is to cut contact. You don't want to sleep with him, give him false hope only to end up looking very cruel with a bad reputation. Leave him in the past where you wanted him to be left. You will find another guy.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (14 February 2010):
 Hi Chick,
You've answered all your questions there for yourself puppet..smile. You've said there were alot of reasons you guys broke up...and even though you cared about him..there was no long term intentions....and your personalities were not compatible....No doubt you will miss the love making and the sexual chemistry....but is that enough for you...just sexual chemistry?? And drunk phone calls??
I am sure you are a beautiful young woman...I am sure of it...so I think you can let this one go...and hold on for someone who is worth more than sexual chemistry ...someone who will treat with respect beyond the love making. In your situation...I'll stop answering the phone.
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