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anonymous
writes:I've got into a bit of a mess. Recently, i've been getting really close to my mum's boyfriend and I really like him a lot more than I should. My mum has been dating him for just over a year and he recently moved in but because she works away and I'm an only child we've been at home together, just the two of us for a while, he's a lot younger than my mum. He's 31 and my mums 38. I love spending time with him and he's not like a dad at all just a friend and he's so lovely I can't help but like him. When I realised I really liked him, everything became awkward. I tried to stay away from him as much as I could but with only two of us in the house its difficult. He spoke to me last night and said he was really worried because I'd been acting weird around him and I did explain that I felt like we were getting a bit close and he said he was sorry if he felt like He was coming across that way and I just thought he was so nice about it. and it just made me like him even more what am I supposed to do? what should I do to stop these feelings cus I know they are wrong? everything he says and does I just want him even more and I just feel like its so wrong but feels so right.
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reader, MoonLux  +, writes (8 November 2010):
 Seems like he's the only guy you're really hanging out with. Please realize just because you're exposed to certain people who you get along with doesn't mean you're falling for them. It's disturbing to find that you feel like you're falling for a man that your mother loves. This is probably the last thing she thought would ever happen and it would be devastating to her! I'm with PatientlyWaiting1. Honor your mother.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): Have u thought what this wil do to you mum if/when she discoves that something is going on bet you two. I am glad however u realise inappropriate closeness bet the two of u and u want to put a stop to it. This man does and says the right thing all the time, are u sure he is not 'grooming' u bec she is a predator. He is winning your trust and affection and then he will pounce. Plse becareful.
I also cannot understand why your mum will allow him to move in. I am sure she is paying the bills and that he freeboards with you.
Whatever is happening plse realise that he is off limits. You are underage and if he has sex with u he will be arrested. Plse keep all these in mind. Have u considered talking to your mum? Instead of having secrets with her man plse start limiting contact with him and start realising that the mother daughter relationship is suffering. If u continue and u come between your mum and her lover, does it make u a home/relationship wrecker? Please you ae young so try not to destroy your life with this much older man. Plse also remember your mum is still young, only 38, your age difference is much more sine u are 16 and he is 31.
Have u considered going to live with your dad for a while?
LoveGirl
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): Just try to relize that this person is your mother's boyfriend. It will just make things so akward if you continue your feelings for this person. Just think of the hurt you would cause your mother if you express your feelings to this person.
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reader, WhateverMovesThee +, writes (3 November 2010):
 It's not unusual for young ladies like you to start crushing on the most unexpected (unavailable) people. I once had a crush on a man my mom briefly dated but then, I kept thinking he made out with my mom! Aaaand just like that, I took a shower and got over it :p You'll look back on this someday and laugh! Meanwhile, focus on your schoolwork, join some clubs, hang with friends and keep busy so you're not around him so much. Remember too that if he aproaches you in THAT way...eeww! You don't go for it as you'll be helping him cheat on the woman who gave you life and furthermore, he's taking advantage of your youth. Start dating (if you feel ready) a nice, good-looking young man around your age can do a lot to stop these feelings. Good luck, hon!
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (3 November 2010):
Im not sure why you feel like that. I have never been put in a situation like that. I can tell you that it is not healthy and you have to let that go. Meet some guys your own age. He seems to be a nice guy and may be your stepdad one day. 31 and 38 is not a big difference lol it just seems like that because of your age right now. Respect your mothers relationship, she is your mother, love and honor her. Push those thoughts out of your mind and enjoy being a kid.
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