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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and eight months. He was my best friend for about a year and a half beforehand, and I love him with absolutely all my heart.We have a fantastic relationship, and tell each other everything. I want to stay with him for the rest of my life, but I don't think he feels the same. We spoke about university, and he said although he would never leave me for another girl, he wants 'some experience'. He maintained it wasn't a sexual thing, just experience of what having a relationship with another would be like. But then he claimed that he didn't know if he could ever leave me as it would hurt me too much.I'm now doubting whether he means it when he tells me he loves me. Help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2012): me and my boyfriend have been going out since high school.. he promises he'll stay with me forever.. we're both college freshmen in two different countries now and together for roughly 2 years.. we talk everyday for almost 8 hours a day and go to sleep while on the phone with each other.. then he told me yesterday that he wanted some space.. and he'll talk to me on monday (a day and half later).. he just needs time to be himself.. it's not monday yet but i don't know.. another guy in my university who's much older than me has been showing me that he likes me lately for the last three months and has been talking to me throughout my boyfriend's "quiet time".. he talks to me every week.. i wish you all the best but things change people change but if it's something you're both willing to fight for go for it.. if it's only one person than good luck but it'll be difficult.. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2012): When I was in high school I was with this guy that I loved with all my heart, I thought we would be together for ever, he was my everything. We were together for 4 years, and just after high school out of the blue he broke up with me, at the time I thought it was the worst thing in the world to have happened and I was so upset.
Life went on, we both got married and had children, and for reasons beyond our control our marriages ended.
After 16 years apart we found each other again, and we know that now is the right time for us. We are now engaged to be married, and are very happy.
What I am trying to tell you is that, while right now you are not sure where things happen, it may just not be your time. Let life happen and if you both find yourselves 16 years down the road (or whatever) you will be lucky. I can just tell you about my experiance and hope you can find some peace with that. I know in my heart if I did not let him go 16 years ago, if we had have stayed together, we would not be where we are now and as happy as we are.
Good luck
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reader, Emily Ophelia  +, writes (11 November 2012):
Don't doubt that he loves you! He does now and the moment is what counts! I have been with my first boyfriend for 2 1/2 years and I was entirely certain that we'd end up being married. Turns out things don't out the way you want them to when you are 16. But don't worry about it! Enjoy this while it is happening and who knows- maybe you are going to beat the odds =)!Just make sure you live the moment; don't loose your mind on problems of the future!(if this makes you sad/angry/idk what I am honestly very sorry!!)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 November 2012):
 I think he loves you, here and now, but he is being a realistic, sensible kid.
He knows that "forever" is too big a word for a person in your age range. You both are going toward years of very momentuous and rapid transformations, and in general what one is and wants at 17 is all different from what he is and wants 10 years later.
Don't take it so seriously and just enjoy your young love one day at the time. If you belong to a lucky minority, you'll be together for the rest of your lives. If not, don't worry because, even if this sounds like blasphemy to you now - there are very very good chances that in a few years YOU'll be the one that wants new experiences.
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