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writes:Hi ,i am 14 years old and i am concerned that my girlfriendis pregnant. she was a virgin as i had sex before. We dident use protection and now she is 3 months pregnant. Web dont know how to tell our parents as they will both go mad with us. She has being secretly going to the doctors and hospital for regular check ups but she is quickly moving on. Reply to this Question
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reader, Hannah47899  +, writes (17 November 2018):
You posted this eleven years ago so what ever happened with that situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2010): dude, im in the same situation. and i dont get it because i wore a rubber and it didnt break and she still thinks shes pregnant and i know she wouldnt just lie to me about that, and i cant tell my parents because ill be kicked out for sure, im pretty sure its the same way for her, so i cant really give much advice here seeing as i got myself into the same thing , but all i can say is, good for you man , stickin with her through it. thats the way to go man, dont back down. good luck. hopefully we figure this thing out man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2010): hey bud, im in the exact same situation. my girlfriend thinks shes pregnant and i dont see how because i used a rubber and it didnt break. but she wouldnt lie to me about it. and she bled early.. if my parents find out im kicked out of the house for sure. i dont know if shed be kicked out. i dont really know what to do myself so i cant really give any good advice. but good for you man. stickin with her through it. its the way to go. good luck man. hope we figure this ouut
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2010): hey i am 13 and my girlfriend is 14 and we dont know if she is pregnant yet and we want to get married when we are 16 and have a family and good luck i hope you have a good life and please dont run away that is the worst thing you could ever do to her that is things that pussys do be a man and grow a pair and take care of the child but tell your parents they will understand i told my mother already
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): bro im 16 my girl is 15 i have been with her through alot i have been arrested over her a few times i had quit skool b4 i met her i fell in love with her got back in skool for her. she is preg. she is very happy about it u need to be honest and tell ur parents and her parents be with her and dont break up and run thats what no good pussys do. stick with her cuz the baby is yours too and if u didnt want a kid then u shudnt have fucked her to begin with. i am n the prossess of making a music record i am suporting us both by working skating and rapping n battles for fun. good luck and just dontt be afraid and dont leave her
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): Dude you are FUCKED!!!!!! break up with her and relocate! Or else your a fuckin dad bro! Hope this helped :)
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reader, Vikki W  +, writes (30 July 2010):
i had sex 2 days ago and my boyfriend thinks i am prego idk what do :( i cant tell my parents because i would get kiked out :(
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reader, matt nelson +, writes (30 July 2010):
im in the same position as u, from previouse comments i m thinkn their right, its a 50/50 chance, parents will freak at first, cause were young, but after a while they will either help or kick u out, my parents r probly gonna do both, idk bout yours but they will probly help.
good luck man, b tuff, may god help you and me
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reader, zak7295 +, writes (30 October 2009):
I'm in the same position. I'm 14 and my girlfriend is 15. she's a month pregnant and neither one of our parents know. We're planning on telling them when she's three months. It's good to know that I'm not the only one going through this.
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reader, renea92  +, writes (7 July 2009):
hey i have just turned 17 and i am 2 and a harlf months pregant and by boyfriend the father of the baby kicked me out because i did not get rid off it
meanwhie we were dating for 2 years with unprotecked sex
so u know what matey go on you for sticking by her that it the right thing to do. and only being 14 is amasing how you can think and acked so mertcher good on you
and i hope everything works out for the best
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reader, jay lowe +, writes (16 May 2009):
i'm in the same situation, my girlfriend did a pregnancy test and its posotive and her mum knows but she's making her get rid of it but my parents say if i get her pregnant before i'm 16 i get kicked out of the house so how do i tell them??
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reader, helpmeplz815 +, writes (4 January 2009):
hey, im currently in this situation now and im terrfied, my gf was supposed to have her period 2 days ago supposably and she still hasnt, im only 14. and very scared, ive been desperatly looking for help and shes so scared she says she doesnt wanna live if she is and that kills me.. if anyone, anyone at all can give me some sence of relife, anyone i would appriciate that greatly.. thank you..good luck to you i hope you and me both figure this out.
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reader, sassafrass +, writes (6 March 2008):
I am so sorry that you are both experiencing this. I know that things will be tough in the long run. I think you shoul have the babies and consider putting it up for adoption. There are so many willing families that would graciously accept your child into their home. You would be making such a mature decision. Please talk to someone that can give you good advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2008): I'm reading this, not to give advice but to ask you how you dealt with it, if you have inf act, dealt with it yet.You see, im in a similiar situation. Me and my GF (both 16) had sex, (protected) but it broke. We didnt think much off it due to all the info you hear about the product inside the comdom killing sperm and all... However, my GF has been throwing up in the mornings for a week, started bleeding a week earlier (due to lining on the egg breaking away) and only bleeding a small amount, allmost confiming this fact. This would only be 1 month pregnant if she is btw. I dont know what to do, my parents would never expect it.. although i beieve i could face up to them..Any advice would be nice....By the way, i wish you the best of luck. Happy lives to all
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reader, Nick838 +, writes (8 January 2008):
All I can say is Good luck! Tell your parents, though. You can't hide it, and it's better to have them find out with you being open, then not. If I were you, and I'm not very old to be offering this kind of advice, but I'd ask one of your parents to take on the child. If they won't, then put him/her up for adoption? I don't know what to tell you. you have my sympathy, and I wish you the best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): hi... i am in the same situation as you and i know what you are going through. I am 14 and pregnant also and i do not know how to tell my parents,but my boyfriend and i have decided we would tell them this weekend,i'm nervous and scared but i know telling them is for the best.
Good luck with everything esp the baby!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2007): Hmmmmm, well i have been through a similar situation but im a girl so i was the one with baby, the best thing to do is tel them now and not wait the longer you wait the more upset your parents will be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2007): Ok first of all... What were you two thinking??? Only an idiot would have sex at 14, especially unprotected. How old is your gf? I'm 14 and my bf is 16 and we would never do that, especially unprotected. I must say that the only thing that both of you can do is to tell both of your parents no matter how hard it is. They're gonna find out sooner or later anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007): You'd be smart to tell your parents ASAP. It's not like you can keep it a secret anyway.
Hopefully, you and your girlfriend will make the right decision which would be to let the child be adopted by some loving family. Then stop having intercourse for awhile and concentrate on your studies, sports, hanging out with friends. Have some fun as a teen cuz you only get ONE CHANCE at it and then it is ALL OVER.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007): Ok i know that this is probably a waste of words but what were you thinking having unprotected sex at 14 yrs old? You and your girlfriend thought that you were adult enough to handle everything that comes with having sex, that also means that you have to be adult enough to tell your parents that you have made a mistake and now your girlfriend is pregnant. I will commend both of you on the fact that she was mature enough to get to a doctor. Most kids your age would not think that far ahead. Are you and your girlfriend ready to take on the responsibility of raising a child i am 21 and married and our first child is 10 mths old now and it was very hard a scary for us and we were ready to handle everything emotionally and physically. your girlfriend is still growing and that is going to make deliving the baby harder on her body. Not maention once the baby comes home dont plan on getting any sleep for a while. Your parents may surprise you. i wish you and your girlfriend the best luck with the baby.
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reader, edie +, writes (21 December 2007):
theres no point in people tellin you that you were too young to have sex you have done ot and theres no turnin back and yes you both probably thought that it would not happen to you but it has and now you both have to deal with it but really you will have to tell them at one point and i am sure if you have both decided that you do or dont want to go through with the pregnancy your parents will be alot more supportive than you think .you will both feel so much better once you have told them i know its difficult but honestly you will feel so much better and i am sure her parents would feel heart broken if they thought there daughter was going through this alone and felt she could not turn to them for support. they will be shocked at first but they will come round . its so sad that you have had to learn the hard way but it does happen so many times good luck to you both
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2007): I was young when I got pregnant. The biggest fear I had was telling my parents but it had to be done.
There's no point in keep putting it off. The sooner the better. It will give them more time to get used to the idea of becoming grandparents themselves.
I was not brave enough to tell them myself so i wrote a letter,took my mobile and went out.
this way it gives them time to think. I thought I would get a call on my mobile with them shouting at me.
But I was completly wrong and their reaction suprised me.This is just one way of telling your parents if you really can't do it face to face. I know its the cowardly way but at least it will be out in the open.
Then you won't feel like, your on your own in this situation, and you both can get the help and support your going to need.
i wish you both luck!!!
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reader, LULU'S Advice +, writes (21 December 2007):
 You must tell some one my love.Preferably your parents.If this realy isn't possible is their some one you can confide in who could be a go between.Some one who could tell your parents for you while your not there and then your parents can take it from there.Are you sure of how far on your girlfriend is.It's very important because if you don't intend to keep the baby,you are getting very close to the cut off point where something can be done medically.If you do intend to keep the baby then your going to need all the help you can get.Perhaps your parents will surprise you with their reaction but please my love,do get help. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2007): Hi there;
Your gonna have to tell both your parents. Your g/f is gonna start showing shortly and won't be able to hide the bump from them or anyone.
Yeah they will be disappointed and probably a little bit mad at first but they will only be looking out for the health of both baby and your g/f at the end of the day.
Both you and your g/f should sit down and talk thro how and what you are gonna say to them first. Don't just rush straight in and land this on them. Be grown up about it and take responsibility for this.
Best of luck with everything
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reader, leonard j, Douglas  +, writes (21 December 2007):
You got some great advice go with it.
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (21 December 2007):
 ok you have to think like an adult now. you have this baby on the way - whether you tell your parents now or not, that wont change. they are going to find out at some point and the sooner you tell them the better. You're not avoiding telling them you are just delaying it.
They will be disappointed and shocked but they will help you. They'll understand that ok it is not what anyone planned or would have chosen but its happened and now it has to be dealt with. You cant do it on your own and they are much more likely to handle it well if they see that you are being mature and going to them early on. Thats a lot better than one day saying "oh yeah mum i meant to tell you, my girlfriend is 8 months pregnant".
Burying your head in the sand wont make the situation go away it will only make it worse. So take a deep breath, be strong and tell them. Write it in a note if you find that easier. everything happens for a reason and it will all work out. if you do it today, this time next week the shock will be over and they will be helping you deal with it as best you can.
good luck
brooke
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (21 December 2007):
 You have to tell your parents. Do you really think that six months from now when she gives birth that they're not going to notice anything? That is, if you intend on keeping it (and if she's getting regular check-ups, it sounds like you do). You have to think seriously about what this means for you and you have to decide what you're going to do about the baby. Where are you going to bring it up? Who is going to pay for all of this?
Tell them. Yes, they're going to be very angry. They're going to freak out. And then they're going to deal with it, because they have to.
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reader, rcn +, writes (21 December 2007):
 This is up to you. You're kind of young to play the "I'm pregnant, pass the potatoes" way.
Do you think it would be better to tell them together or have each of you tell your own parents. Have you discussed what you're planning on doing when the baby is born? Parents seem to like it if you have a realistic plan in place for what you both plan on doing.
All though your parents will be upset. Being a parent myself, I don't get mad at my children, I do get upset with a choice or an action that caused the issue. If you need more tips. I recommend speaking to the doctor, or to a counselor who deals with teen pregnancy. they can help you to design the plan on how to tell them.
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reader, esepalo1 +, writes (21 December 2007):
 Wow dude its time to grow up fast welcome to adult life.Let me give you some advice dont be like all the dead beat dads you made your bed now you gotta sleep in it.As a up coming dad be responsiable and take care of what you made any body can make a child but takes real man to be a father.Its time to quit hiding and let yours and her parents know whats gonig on it aint gonna be easy but you will feel alot better and maybe some help will come your way be a man and let them know your willing to be there for her and your child and mean it dont just say it.Prove to others and mostly your girlfriend let her know your there for her.Get your prioritys straight and in the mean time finish school time to balance school and job.You guys are to young to be doing what your doing i mean children having children thts beside the point its done already so no crying over spilled milk just do the rite thing and be a man and be a good man/dad.PS: PUT GOD FIRST AND HE WILL HELP YOU.MUCH LOVE GOOD LUCK PSS.I KNOW WHAT IM WRITING ABOUT BEEN THERE ALL OF IT.
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (21 December 2007):
 First of all (please I'm not trying to get at you, you and your gf are way to young to be even having sex and even then you're proving it by not using protection -i'm not trying to get at you, its just be prepared for that. Both of your parents are going to say the same thing.
I suggest you two both sit down, with both your parents and hers and tell them the situation.
Expect them to be mad, shout and all call you many things under the sun.
Once they begin to calm, tell them something along the lines off "we know we were being stupid..." (make them know you both have accepted your responabilities) "....but bawling and shouting isn't going to help the situation. Sophie has a baby going inside of her and we're telling you because we would appreciate your support and the fact you if you want can help support your grandchild"
Like i said let them know you are BOTH being mature about the situation don't raise your voice no matter how out of hand it gets, now is the perfect time to show you are finally acting mature and adult about the situation.
tell me how it goes hun and I wish you the best of luck
message me if you need more help or advice.
Raven x
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