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writes:okay so i havent been on this site for a while and I wanna say thanx for those who has helped me...so i come again with another problem..I've been in love(it's defenantly love) with my bestfriend for over 2 yrs, never made a move because I still am afraid to ask her out...8Pbut i have chosen her happyness over our everything including my family...but there is this other girl that I am talking to that i like....I might even ask her out soon but..I mean at the same time i will never lose these feelings for my best friend...idk what to do? PLz do help..again...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2007): I assume you are scared that if you go out with her and then break up you will also lose her as a friend? Often having a relationship with a friend can be extremely awkward in any case. Ask yourself, are you actually attracted to her or do you just love her as a close friend? If it's definately more than friendship and she hasn't got a boyfriend - I'd say go for it! I'm sure she'll say yes, and you may find she's been facing the samec dilemma as you!
Or alternatively, you could stay close friends with her and date this new girl you like. If your friend gets jealous then it's obvious she has feelings for you.
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reader, Chrissykaye19  +, writes (21 December 2007):
 Alright,
well, if you love this girl why dont you try find out if she likes you back?
i mean not give it away but flirt alittle?
Because at the end of the day you love her and if you leave her for the one you like, the one you like with leave you for the one she loves?
All i can say is flirt with her,
dont get anyone to ask her cause she may feel the same but want to keep it a secret of her own.
Theres usally little signs to no if a girl likes you,
like she'll look at you when you aint looking.
She'll flirt with you secretly
and so on.
Message back if any more advice needed.
Chrissy xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2007): Lust. This is the main thing that drives so many teenagers across the world, i think at this age you should try not to be weighed down by this sort of problem, trust me i have been in a similar situation so i know how you feel. Over all i think you should follow your heart, deep down you will know what to do. Have fun..this is the age to make the most of spending as much time with girls as possible.. if you know what i mean!!
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (21 December 2007):
Hi, your dilemma is one that many people face. I have been in love with my best friend for years and she knows it, but we also both know that it will never be anything more than friends between us. She just does not see me as someone she could have a romantic relationship with. It has been the hardest thing to accept for me but I also know that I do not want to risk a very special friendship otherwise.
All you can do is remain best friends with her and let your life move on otherwise. At some point any other girl you are going out with will ask about your best friend. Be honest. But remember you do not have to tell it all. It is okay to have best friends that are of the opposite sex but you should also expect that many girls you might be going out with are not comfortable with this. Have respect for their feelings. Don't deny the friendship but make sure that they know from what you say and how you act, that it is only friends.
Lastly, you are young. Life will throw you a few curve balls and there is plenty of time to find your true love. Just enjoy everything and stay cool. It will all work out in the end.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2007): If i would in your problem i would chose the one that i been knowing longer.Ask your best friend you might get a surprise.
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