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female
age
36-40,
*psie
writes:Am suspecting my dad is having an affair with a lady, about 2 months ago he had to go to another town for a contract that was awarded to him and comes home on weekend. I've not really been around though but last week when i came back from school he received a call well i, my sister and mum were there but they didnt notice what i noticed,the conversation was cordial asking how was lectures but didnt hear the rest i suspected something was amiss because i don't know of anyone that is our family that is still in school, yesterday he received a call and didn't talk loud i couldn't figure out what he was saying and he is not the type that talk like that when on phone.This morning, i checked his phone; contact, message, delivered message and i notice a name that sound like a female name, he sent credit and even texted asking how was her night and on his contact her birthday was included, she is young and she is 25yrs from what i saw that means she is young anyway i called her to confirm hiding my number, i was not from her response, i don't know what to do or could my assumption be wrong, am the only one aware of it in my family.We are only 2girls and my mummy lives with us and i don't think there is any quarell between them. Pls your advice is needed urgently.Thanks
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reader, Opsie +, writes (31 July 2009):
Opsie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your advice i will watch as things happen,sure he will delete every text sent to her,i saw her missed call this evening but will wait alittle time before i tell him am the only one aware of it though,my boyfriend told me last two weeks to give him some space and i know how everything is killing me inside though am trying to be strong by getting in touch with him and don't want anything that will turn my family apart as they are the only one that gives me hope and surviving mind though they are not aware of the breakup.Thanks once more will apreciate more advice.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (31 July 2009):
 The information you gave doesn't imitate an affair or it might. You just don't have enough to confirm what's going on yet. You don't want to say they are, and have everything blow up in your house if they are not. that wouldn't be good for anyone. You uncomfortable feeling symbolizes something being different, which may be what you suspect, but I'd still wait and see if any more information comes your way.
Your response, what could they have together? Since it doesn't seem as if your parents are not doing well, more than likely it's just a sexual relationship, if there is one at all.
I hope you're not right about this. Affair's are wrong, and hurtful. If it turns out to be right, and you need advise on what to do, or how to work through the emotions you'd have, feel free to contact me again.
Take care.
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reader, Opsie +, writes (31 July 2009):
Opsie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI mean from her response she is young so what could they have together.Thanks expecting ur reply
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (31 July 2009):
 they are just suspicions of yours and you have no facts if you spoke to your mother about it she might feel insecure and jump to conclusions and could cause a blow at your parents relationship which wouldn't be a good move.if you find out your dad is having an affair maybe you should confront him about this matter first and then tell him to be honest with your family maybe that way things can get sorted out.if you get facts that they are meeting up perhaps make your dad aware that someone in the family knows about it by deleting the persons textes and number from his phone that could make him come clean
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2009): ... 'you were not from her response'? What do you mean?
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