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writes:Hello everyone I am a female who needs a lot of help it seems like every time I ask someone what 2 do they give me differnt answers I have a boyfriend who I been going out with for 3 years and I like his friend they are always together.His friend has a girl friend also I don't know what it is about his friend that I like but I think about him all the time. and when I feel bad that I like his friend and start 2 forget him he's calls me, what should I do? But when people tell me oh its not right to like you're mans friend, I say ok you guys are right, and then he comes back around and then I like him again. What should I do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sir Chaos +, writes (24 March 2008):
Wow! I can only hope to have a gf as sweet as you one day! Really! Obviously if you have feelings for his friend after three years of being with this guy you probably dont really want or need to be with him anymore. No matter what you do, he is going to despise you probably forever. I definitely would not advise you to stay with you boyfriend. If you could do him any favors at all it would be to break up with him. Staying with someone who loves and cares about you and you dont feel the same is very selfish. So whether or not you get with his friend, break up with your boyfriend, give him the chance to find someone he actually deserves. As for you going out with his friend, not only will it break your boyfriends heart, its going to ruin his friendship with that friend. I know you're probably one of those girls that gets off on this kind of drama, but see if you can find a heart tin man! Heres whats going to end up happening to you, I assure you. You get together with his friend, create a couple of enemies and destroy a friendship in the process and then his friend after sleeping with you is going to toss you to the side and you will be left with no one. Which you probably deserve anyway. But the choice is yours. Hope this helps?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): Hi i can undersatnd u wat r u going thru..the solution to this problem is only u..u have to think it over..do u really like this friend of ur boyfriend more than him?and u think u will happier with him? then pls go ahead and let ur boy friend know about this..but pls do it gentely tat too if u cant resist..cos there is no use being in a relation which u dont want to be in.its better to move on...
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reader, sarahisgreat123 +, writes (24 March 2008):
How do you know that he likes you too? If he has told you or someone else has told you and you are sure that he likes you then you have more of a problem... Otherwise it could just be a crush on this guy that will eventually go away. I agree with the last comment though. You have been with your boyfriend for 3 years! That's quite an accomplishment! Do you still have feelings for your current boyfriend? If you do, then stay with him because this other crush may go away...
(It sounds like the guy you like is a pretty good friend of yours and if this is the case and you guys are open with each other and he does like you back... you may have to be honest with him and tell him how you feel and let him know that you guys cant be friends right now because it is making it harder on you...)
but if you guys both like each other and you no longer like your boyfriend... it may be worth going for it with this other guy... see where it goes because you may be in a dead end relationship
i hope that helped!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): Ok you have a guy and you like his friend, but he has a girlfriend, so it gets doubly messy. Walk away. We all have things that we like about other people but we have to put them out of our heads. You have a bloke of 3 years, so why do you want to hurt him? Plus, think of all those broken hearts if you two did get together, not worth it.And who is to say that anything would last. Just admire him (if you must) from a distance. And if he comes near you then always have an excuse not to be alone with him. Keep at arms length and more.
take carexx
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