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writes:We met about 2 years ago i was 17 and he was 25, we dated 4 over a year, we loved each other a lot, we broke up about 6 months ago he said he wasnt happy with me but we was still hanging out and having sex, he wanted 2 be friends even though i didnt want to, i agreed and now things are just crazy! he is seeing a couple of other girls and tells me to do my thing then the other nite he tells me that he loved me more than any other girl hes ever been with. he always uses past tense and he will say he loved me, does that mean he dont love any more? These girls leave things at his place, he stopped by yesterday to drop off sumthin i left over there and he told me to keep my eye on the prize. was he talking about him? I don't know what 2 do, i just want him back what should i do?Just to add... we haven't been having sex 4 the past 2 months, he says its cuz he dont want 2 hurt me anymore and i also left out that he is having sex with 2 girls, one brings him food and the other he claims he's seeing, idk so do you still think i should move on? I just want my boobie back any suggestions
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reader, jc82 +, writes (7 March 2010):
 You can leave each other alone, you just have to decide not to put up with him anymore. Do you want someone who says he's a prize to win? How can you cope with hearing him talk about other women? What do you think will happen in the future for the two of you, realistically, if you actually got back together after he's treated you like this? I think he will always feel he can behave how he wants and you'll just wait and want him. Not a wise choice, it will slowly unravel you...
My advice to you would be to move on completely, but I get the impression that is nowhere near what you want. So, instead, tell him you won't talk to him or have any contact at all unless he breaks up with everyone else and is yours exclusively. No friendship, no phone calls with each other, no internet stalking him, no ANYTHING. If you want him back, and you don't want him to cheat on you, you have to be tough with him.
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk so thanks 2 everyone 4 there advice but im having more problems n i need more help.... I didnt call him 4 2 days n on the 2nd nite he called me which was last nite he told me that he wishes i was there so he could hold me( he has told me many times that it dont feel the same wit other ppl) he wanted me 2 stay over but we knew it wasnt 4 the best cuz the girl hes been seein has alot of her stuff there but anyways he then went on 2 tell me that the girl hes been seeing 4 the past couple weeks told him she loved him n tlked bout moving in but he said no n also told me he dont love her so i told him 2 break it off wit her that shes crazy ... We then both agreed that we miss each other n he also told me he never stopped loving me i just dont get it y is he seeing her then? Is he doing this 2 bury his feelings 4 me? He cant let me completly go n he has told me that just like he knows i cant let him go im just confused what should i do now
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirst i wanna thank everyone 4 there advice but i need more well i tried i didnt call him 4 2 days on the 2nd nite he called me which was last nite i was in a good mood so picked up n he was tellin me how he wishes i was there so we could hold each other he told me he never stopped loving n said he missed me he then went on 2 tell me bout the girl hes been seeing 4 a couple weeks he told me she told him that she loves him n mentioned moving in but he said he dont love her but he does like her so i told 2 break it off cuz it wont work n she is crazy i just dont get it if we both miss n loue each other then y he is seeing her? He also said he liked being around me n hearing my voice i just dont know i feel like we cant leave each other alone im so confused
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (6 March 2010):
 Kick him to the curb and find someone who is more deserving of you .
Cut your losses and run. He is just behaving like an animal and a stud.
He does not know what is love, commitments and faithfulness.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (5 March 2010):
 He's messing with your head. Don't let him drag you along for a pointless ride. Lose complete contact with him. You deserve and will find someone better I guarantee.
Best of luck :)
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reader, jc82 +, writes (5 March 2010):
First of all, stop wanting him back. Its useless. He has already totally lost respect for you, and you are letting him treat you like crap (confirming to him that his loss of respect was a valid judgment). He will never again truly want to be with you, not in any way that you would like to be wanted. From now on, you are no longer someone he really desires and is trying for, or chasing after, he has all the cards, all the power. You can't win this one, its best to walk away.Lots of people have found themselves with a complete jerk like this, and it always ends the same way. Eventually, they treat you bad enough, long enough, that you realize how ridiculous you feel and look and you let go. Do it sooner rather than later!
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reader, Alitta  +, writes (5 March 2010):
what a such jerk ! he's only using you nothing more, you MUST leave him right away, he doesn't even deserve to be loved !!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2010): I agree. The guy is a player. He's playing with your mind, manipulating you so as to make you into his willing sex partner while he gets with other girls on a regular basis. Forget him.
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reader, robot  +, writes (5 March 2010):
My idea - never see this man ever again in your whole life, and warn everyone you care about to stay well away from him. If you have any trouble following that advise, then ask for some more help. This kind is the kind of behaviour of a purely controlling and power hungry person. He is disturbed. If you continue to see him you are helping to boost his ego, and he will become more adept at controlling and subsequently hurting more people. Don't try and help him whatever you do.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 March 2010):
This guy is a player and is using you and all those other girls for sex. He doesn't care about you as a person. You need to move on from him. He'll just use you, then dump you when the time is right.
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