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writes:I am in love with my boyfriend. The only thing that bothers me is the fact that he is far more sexually experienced than me. We have been sexually active for months now with each other and he claims that our sex is the best he's ever had. But sometimes I get insecure that he's a) just saying that to make me feel better, b) he's just a horny bastard and thinks sex is great no matter what, or c) that he is truly being honest.The reason this worries me is because I only had sex twice before I met him. He's had sex like hundreds of times I'm guessing. Secondly he lost his virginity at a very young age (he was in middle school) while I lost mine months before my 18th birthday. What are some ways I can find out more about his past sex's and if I'm really as good as he says without sounding like a jealous girlfriend? and is this even any of my business?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for the responses
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (14 February 2010):
 Your crazy!!! If you feel insecure now, when you don't know nothing about his past, then it will drive you totally insane when he is honest and gives you all the details.
And he doesn't want to know about your past either. There is no need to know what you and your other boyfriends have done. The past is the past for a reason, best to leave it dead and buried.
If you get what you want and he tells you, then you'll be more insecure than ever, you won't trust him, and will make up silly stories in your head and will keep pestering him about things that are none of your business. Leave the past alone. Your insecure because you don't think highly enough of yourself, he's doing nothing wrong, you need to gain more confidence and stop comparing yourself to other people.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (14 February 2010):
Let it go. Because if you ask him and he tells, judging by how you're acting now, you won't be able to take it and you'll become even more insecure and then he'll run. He is with you, and that's all that matters.
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (14 February 2010):
 Yeah, don't go there. Me and my boyfriend are at complete opposite ends of the spectrum and when we were just friends, he told me about his sexual past and it took soo long to get over it. It made me so sad to think about, I couldn't even look at him. We talked it through and I accept him for who he is. Everyone has a past. But thats what it is, it's the past. Don't let it define your future, it's not worth it. I only hope if you do discover his past, that you're resilient enough to accept it like I was.
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reader, lemontree25 +, writes (14 February 2010):
Please, please just let it go! I promise you it is not a good idea to pursue this line of questioning. I was in exactly the same position with my first bf when I was 18, and he finally broke down and told me what i wanted to know, and it tortured me for months and months and I think it ruined our relationship. You don't want to know about his past in detail, I promise. As long as he's clean it doesn't matter. He is telling you those things most likely because they are true right now. He loves you, he wants to be with you, so to him right now you are the best b/c you are what he wants. That is all you need to know while you are together. Good luck and I hope you take my advice.
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