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writes:I think my best friend likes my guy... you see me and my guy only started seeing each other about a month ago (not really official we're going out, just that we meet each other etc.) and she is constantly asking about him and saying she wants a guy like him. Now she went out on friday night to a party. we were both asked to but i said i wouldn't go as we were arguing that day. I didn't want to upset her more.... A few hours later my guy asked me to the party and I said no but to go ahead and have fun. I vaguely heard from the girl and I haven't heard from my guy... I know i'm being silly but its just running through my head coz shes so much more better looking than me. And she is really good friends with his sister whom I've just met the other week. I don't know... my sister thinks i'm jumping to conclusions. What do I do??
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reader, cheers  +, writes (15 August 2011):
 of course.First think about yoursef.Do you care him & Crush feeling? If yes,you have to FIGHT FOR WHAT YOU WANT.Don't give in to others.You aren't wrong to do that,instead it shows HOW DEEP your love is to your BF.Show him that you care and Love him. Quickly GET HIS ATTENTION BACK to you. Got it?
My point is get HAPPINESS you desrerve.Be confidence & persistent.You're soft heart& caring person but Doesn't means to give in others everythings.ok?
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (15 August 2011):
 It's not a given that things are aspiring between the two of them. Do realize though as you have stated yourself that you and the guy aren't really official. This gives him the rights to date casually more than one woman at the time. Some people however would not do this because it can lead to confusion and hurt for another party.
You and your friend have problems because you feel she wants your guy, who really isn't YOUR GUY until it's made official. Perhaps he does she this girl as attractive but please make a mental note that he may not want her! Sometimes making a mountain out of a molehill can really cause a situation to "SPARK!"
By refusing his request to accompany him on a date to the party, chances are he may have thought you as being petty or jealous. Denied the right for this date could have pushed him closer to your friend by other than his choice. It's seems you may have a slight self esteem problem as you tend to think she is prettier than you! You have to remember hon that BEAUTY IS IN THE EYES OF THE BEHOLDER! If this guy is persuing you by having you meet him now and then and hang out....which I think the common terminoloy of the time is call....."Talking" then that was a start of a relationship in some form.
Step back and allow the guy to see you aren't being petty and jealous, remember that you are the person God has made you to be. You are unique in your own rights and if he has already started hanging out with you on his own, perhaps he is interested in taking this further. Let the nature of the relationship evolve one step at the time.
Don't diss the best friend, her heart may be longing for someone like your guy friend. She may not want him at all! If his sister is a good friend of hers then your best friend may be around him some and even attracted but if she is a good and true friend, she shouldn't cross the boundries.
Believe in yourself and know that whatever happens that you are worth more than you can imagine. God has someone out there who is waiting for you........it might turn out to be this guy or perhaps not but you must believe that you are worthy to be wanted by a good person. If the guy is more than attracted to your friend and things develope between the two of them, then it was not meant to be...move on! Remember that after all as you yourself had stated....It wasn't Official!!!
Sometimes when all is said and done you realize that you clung to him simply because you got his attention and it felt nice so you wanted more. You must accept however the fact that he may not want more. No matter what, in that aspect remember that your best friend cannot make his mind up,nor can you. It is his choice.
Remember just step back, take your time.......all good things come to those who wait! My best to you and God's Will.
Blessings,
Blue_Angel
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (15 August 2011):
Well, in the first place you say you are not official. There shouldn't be a problem if they do something after all.
Now, from what you wrote it seem like you want he to be exclusive. So you should get that little thing fixed.
Of course, she shouldn't do anything with him if she knows you like him for a boyfriend. And he shouldn't do anything with her if he knows you plan to be a couple. But right now things seem too fuzzy to me.
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