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writes:So my mother and step father married when I was 11 years old my mother has two children, my sister and myself. My step father has three, one older than I, and then two younger. My step brother is only six months younger than me. This past summer he went to basic training and when he came back we realized how close we have gotten to each other over the years. I never thought of him as a true brother but just as a close friend until he came back. For some reason the relationship changed to more of a boyfriend girlfriend relationship we have fooled around a bit and I have fallen head over heels for him. I thought it was wrong and maybe my going off to college in a week would make the feelings stop, but they have not. I can't see myself with any other person besides him I was wondering what to do is it legal to marry a step sibling or is it illegal to do so? Should we stop the relationship or just continue and see where it leads? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay I don't know if anyone is still willin to help but just thought I would give you an update on the situation. I have been at college for a month already. I have gotten involved and have tried to move on and pretend like nothing is between me and him but there most definatly is we are not an offical couple yet he has not asked me to be his girlfriend but he feels the same way about me as I do him I am beging to think he is the one it may cause some weird questions and looks from friends and who knows what the parents will think we have decided to wait to inform them till we can do it together. I have tried to get intresetd in other guys and it isn't happening i only think about him as terms of a deep meaningful private relationship I truely love him with my whole being. I did some research and where I live it is not illegal due to the fact we have ABSOLUTALY no blood relation to each other. I still appreciate the advice thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice IYDM I will keep that in mind part of me does hope that it truely is love and who knows it might be but ill try to see other people and keep things in perspective thanks again for the reply
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reader, Ifyoudontmind +, writes (25 August 2009):
Thats a tough call.I received the most incredible advice once. "Love doesnt understand boundaries." Think about it, to people that have any stigma towards an unconventional relationship be it homosexual or half sibling, anything against the grain. Honestly, if love is what you feel chase it. That being said and playing devils advocate. You may be feeling a mild case of infatuation. Keep that in mind, there are MILLIONS of men out there with amazing traits that you can fall for. If you sleep together, and things dont work into a relationship, you have forever hindered your ability to be close in a platonic sense. Keep that in mind. Try to see other people, and if your emotions continue to flourish. Maybe you did find love. sincerely-IYDM
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): i agree with sphronas. you cant stop or help the way you feel and it isnt illegal... however it would be hard for most people to accept and considering you dont know how he is feeling about you, maybe you should try to move on. going off to college, you will meet alot of new people and this can really take your mind off of someone. if you give it some time and you still seem to have feelings and things havent changed, then who knows where it will end up.. but i think its better for you to focus on other stuff for now. good luck. AAJ.
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reader, Sphronas +, writes (25 August 2009):
 This is not legal advice as I am not a lawyer, but as far as I know it is not illegal since you are not related by blood.
However, you grew up together for a significant period of time, so I am not sure that this is an entirely healthy thing from a psychological perspective. Why don't you let things cool off a little (going off to college should help) and see whether these feelings really last.
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