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*.c.d.l
writes:My boyfriend has bipolar disorder which makes him have over the top up and down moods. He refuses to take the tablets he should be taking. He loses his temper over the slightest thing. We get into huge arguments in which he throws stuff and blames me for making him crazy. Other than this he is so right for me. I don't know what to do, this is ruining our relationship. He really will not take his tablets even though if he did i think wed get on much better. I love him but I don't want to live with constant mood swings, and arguments, and I can't take anymore, but we have split up in the past and I have been miserable, unable to move on. Should i try and leave him for good?
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reader, j.c.d.l +, writes (28 November 2010):
j.c.d.l is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAll helpful answers-Thankyou. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): All good answers, thanks for the help. xx
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (25 November 2010):
 Have tried talking to him about it? Tell him that if he doesn't, you'll leave, because you can't take it anymore.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 November 2010):
For your own sake, it would be better to leave. You can't have a relationship like this. You might be miserable for a while, but it's better than being miserable for the rest of your life.
As the others say, he could change his medication. But I have a friend with bipolar, and when it comes down to it, unless they take responsibility, they're not good to be around.
You can't live your life like this.
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reader, j.c.d.l +, writes (25 November 2010):
j.c.d.l is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHow can i persuade him to take his medication? If I be forceful it offends him and pushes him away, because he doesn't want to face up to it. Anyone with bipolar disorder, or who knows someone with it?
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reader, DanceInTheDark +, writes (25 November 2010):
Yes you should. If he doesn't take his meds he's NOT GOING TO CHANGE.
This disorder doesn't disappear. You won't be able to help him, he'll be stuck like this forever, and possibly get even worse.
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reader, j.c.d.l +, writes (25 November 2010):
j.c.d.l is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe reason he gives is that they give him side effects ie make him tired and drowsy, and he doesnt want to change.
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (25 November 2010):
 Maybe the first thing to do is talk to his doctor
While it IS your bf's responsibility o take his medication, other people with this illness do take their pills. Do you know of any reason he gives for not taking them?? This is why you should talk with his doctor before making a decision about continuing the relationship or not.....
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