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writes:Hi, I'm 18 years old and live with both my parents and my sister. For the last, approximately, five years I've been subjected to frequent rages from my mother. In the majority of these she has been very violent towards me, often bruising my face and head and on one occasion broke my finger. She claims to have extreme Premenstrual syndrome however I don't really think that can be an excuse for her actions. I often feel she uses it as a defence. A lot of her family have various mental problems, her mum had manic depression and other members of her family have been/are depressed. She says she hates me and regrets having children, she'll tell me to get out but then the next day she'll say she didn't mean it? This happens far too often to just see it as something said in anger.I go to 6th form and for the first year I didnt bother to get a job, which she resented. This year I've been really trying and have had an interview this week. I understand she wants me to more than just go to school and then go out but im fed up of being treated like this. I have never brought trouble to the house, do very well in school, baby sit my sister whenever she asks, i dont feel i deserve to be hated?Also recently I have started hitting back in defence, I'm quite a bit stronger than her and feel so bad when it would appear i hurt her, even though she really doesnt care about hurting or damaging me. I do feel that it is wrong to retaliate against her but i don't know how else to defend myself because she doesn;t stop hitting me. I've tried to calm the situation down but it doesnt work - the arguments start out of nothing!It makes me feel really upset. It is also harming the relationship with my boyfriend, i find it really hard to talk about this situation and sometimes I get upset at him because I cant take it out on my mother.I really have no idea what to do anymore and would be thankful for any advice you offer? I was also wondering if there was any way i could move out? I know its wrong to rely on the government/benifits but I just want to leave...
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reader, Sissy 1992  +, writes (26 November 2010):
 Talk to your friends see if you can move in with one of them until you can find a steady job and a cheap but nice apartment... Your mother shouldnt be treating you like this... Dont let it get to you and watch your sister after you move out to see if she is showing the same signs of abuse and if she is then get her out of there also... Thats all i can tell you... I know it is the cowards way out but its the safest way out also...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): If you are 18 get the fuck out of there im 18 to and had a hard life as you r sayin. And now i live wit my very lovin boyfriend who i am expecting my first child. and its not wrong to rely on goverment benifits in you r in a serious situition. Trust me it will be tough at first but in the end it will be all worth it. and just explain to your boyfriend just wat is happing at your home nd how hard it is and im sure he will be as upset to hear this as im am. maybe you could stay with him fora little bit just till you figure something out.girls like us hav to take a stand and make this world safe for all the other girls just stay strong and please take my advice and i wish you the best of luck and make sure you your mom back when u get on with ur life
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