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*ildee84
writes:I have been with my man for a little over 2 years and he won't go down on me, he has NEVER gone down on me or anyone else for that matter. He says he'll do it when we are married (not that we are even engaged yet!) but sometimes he teases me and says he'll never do it! Do you think he's joking or do you think he will? I don't love doing it for him but I will and I don't usually turn him down that often. I've been waiting for it forever because my last 2 boyfriends did it all the time without me even asking (they were also much smaller then him which is why I think they did it so much). I love him and I wouldn't leave him for this but I miss it so bad that I fantasize about it alot. Any ideas ?
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reader, hello1  +, writes (12 December 2007):
 You might just have a guy who dosen't like doing it, which is a shame because you do it for him though you don't like it much. Very selfish on his part
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reader, rcn +, writes (12 December 2007):
 Believe it or not, some guys are not into giving oral sex, as some girls aren't as well. I use to not enjoy giving oral either, but that was when my ex-wife expected it often. Over expectation lead to loss of desire.
Then my daughters mom came a long and didn't expect it. Now I find giving oral to be the best part of sex. You might want to ask him, why it is he doesn't desire doing this.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (12 December 2007):
 Reminds me of a joke:
How do you get your girlfriend to stop giving you blow jobs?
... MARRY HER!
Seriously though, what's good for him is good for you and vice versa. Sounds like he may be a bit nervous about it. Hell, I used to be the same, however, I always LOVE going down. Then again, I was a bit squeemish about having anal sex with a gf but once I tried it it was GREAT :)
DON'T KNOCK IT UNTIL YOU'VE TRIED IT.
I'm sure if you look you'll see other questions on here about all sorts of sexual acts you'll see at the end of the day it is supposed to be fun. Experiment a little.
Why not play a game where you ask each other for favours? Or play cards and whoever loses the hand has to remove an item of clothing? Have a some wine and put some candles on while playing. Once all clothes are off whoever loses the hand has to do something to the other person at their request? I'm not saying jump straight in. Build up to it. And give it some time. It might take a while for him to be comfortable with it.
YOU NEVER KNOW HE MIGHT LIKE IT :)
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (12 December 2007):
 I think that "no oral" should go both ways. Tell him you are giving up blow jobs until marriage.
See if he changes his tune after a long dry spell! I bet he starts "singing" very, very soon - no man likes to go "without" for long!
Hope this helps!
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reader, Crisy +, writes (12 December 2007):
 Next time, you should tell him you wont do it for him because he wont do it for you and thenm see what happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2007): Maybe he is afraid that he won't be any good at it. So you could try "teaching" him about it. But if he is stubborn about not wanting to do it, then it probably just means that he genuinely doesn't want to. I don't know why marriage would change anything but I guess that is how he feels about it. That would turn me off too.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (12 December 2007):
 Some guys aren't into that. Idk if he's joking or not. Ask him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2007): Hi,
All i can suggest is maybe he is worried about doing it thats why he says he will do when your married because that will be years away.
I think you should sit down and talk with him about find out if there are other reasons why he wont do it, I'm sorry thats the only advise i can give you but i have never dealt with that problem before. I hope it works out for you.
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