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female
age
36-40,
*assygurl17
writes:Last year I found out he had been emailing his ex the whole 2 years we had been together. I wouldn't have minded if not for the fact that he made me sever ties with all ex's and male friends from my past. He had been accusing me for months of secretly talking to other guys and I wasn't - but he was emailing several girls in the beginning of our relationship and two ex's while I was pregnant with our child and we were living together. We had a big fight about it and the emails stopped. By then trust was out the window, I installed a keylogger on my computer and he wouldn't let his phone out of his sight. Our internet service was down because I couldn't pay the bill until recently. I had it re-activated on Wednesday, Thursday he emailed his ex:Him- loooooooooooong time no hear, how have u beenHer- I've been good, how r u and the famHim- me and my son r doing well, how r u and ur fam(no mention of me)Her- Good, r u married yetHim- nope not married, r u? Do u still live on cascade road, how's the nursing thing comin alongLast year he was asking her to have lunch, saying he had been in her neighborhood, thought about stopping by, telling her he was sorry he messed up their relationship causing it to end. Now he's emailing her again. I haven't confronted him yet and I'm not even mad. It's clear he's not ready for marriage with me and now I'm not sure if I want to be tied down in a relationship(I'm 25, he's 27). He lies about going to bars and clubs and now he's talking to his ex again. I don't trust him which makes it impossible to be intimate with him. Am I wrong for wanting to move out and take some space until we can figure things out?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 September 2009):
Please please PLEASE ditch this guy. There are better men out there and you deserve someone who won't hurt you like this man is now. Move on. Lots of luck along the way.
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reader, Miami Ad-Vice +, writes (20 September 2009):
You can't love without trust and if you don't trust him maybe your instincts are telling you something.
Confront him, don't be aggressive or argumentative, just be calm and ask him if he's still has feelings for his ex.
I think you are right to move out and clear your head. I think he's keeping his options open and he's not really serious about you.
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (20 September 2009):
 Don't you just hate men sometimes? They are so hard to understand! lol well i think you should confront him about this in a calm way so don't have a go at him, just ask him and see his reaction, if he's extremly upset and gets very angry then yeah he may be hiding something but then again he might just be annoyed because you went behind his back. If you want more but he doesn't then yeah maybe you should have a break from each other and see what it feels like on your own, he may realise that he can't live without you and drop down on one knee....but then again he may not
Hope it all works out!
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