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writes:Me and this guy that I've only met twice have hooked up each time we've been together while at a friend's house. Each time, he's gone down on me, but afterwards it didn't seem like he wanted anything in return. Does that seem wierd to anyone? Why would a guy go down on a girl and not expect anything in return? This has happened not just once, but twice. Reply to this Question
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reader, Hootie  +, writes (9 November 2008):
I am in the same situation I met this guy and he went down on me for 2hours he said he enjoys it I did nothing in return. Intially I thought it was weird but he says he really enjoys watching me cum. I enjoy it too. Many men like to please there woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): i'm 28 y/o now. when i was 23 or so, i was the guy that you're talking about. in the past i'd had a girl kinda do that for me (go down pretty often w/o reciprocation in discreet-ish semi-public places) and the scenario was really hot...so i guess it became a fantasy/fetish for me to be the one on my knees for a girl.
don't get me wrong, i love head....but similar to what you described i hooked up with this girl and just had this fetish about going down on her all the time and having it be all about her... it happend prolly 15 times or so before she started seeing another guy...and had me go down one last time before telling me she needed to stop herself...
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reader, WiredReds +, writes (18 September 2008):
Blow and hand jobs are over in less than a minute, sometimes. With women however, a guy can go down a woman and be there for several minutes, half-hour to an hour if he's got some water nearby to keep salivary glands intact. It gives a man a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction when he gives a woman multiple or just one orgasm. I say enjoy it. And if it's a real good job he's doing, don't wait for him to walk outta the room when he's done with you, give him back a "gift" he'll remember for a long time!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (18 September 2008):
 If he's rich and can cook, Marry him...
No, but seriously, men enjoy giving pleasure! It's a turn on in itself to be in control of giving pleasure to someone else, right? Women like blow jobs for the same reasons, to please their partner!
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reader, Mark25 +, writes (15 September 2008):
 No, this isn't weird. Men love performing oral sex. It's as simple as that. There is a common misconception that men only want blowjobs and will only do anything if they can get something in return. This is rubbish. Not all men are selfish. Seeing their wife or girlfriend experiencing pleasure is often pleasuring enough for a man. Just accept that he's happy to go down on you and isn't nagging for something in return. A lot of women crave for a man like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2008): The anonymous male reader below is absolutely dead right and I agree with him wholeheartedly! Blowjobs are ok, but in my opinion it's a vastly overrated pastime. However, going down on a woman is one of those wonderful pleasures in life that the good Lord devised to keep us cunnilingus fetishists happy! He thought of everything didn't he?!
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reader, Locarios +, writes (15 September 2008):
We aren't all pigs who are just in it for ourselves :)There are givers and receivers. Maybe he was just too shy to request anything back, maybe just giving was enough for him. Don't read too much into it - enjoy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2008): Come on now, is this serious. We men love to give oral, we love the experience, hell why do you think we look at porn so much??Cos we love the female genitals and to get a taste of them, ideal.We are not like chicks who just do it to keep us happy, we actually love it!!
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reader, FETSEA  +, writes (15 September 2008):
Meeting for sex at a friend's place can be neutral, but not comfortable. Was there time for fore-play, and all the excitement of fellatio and cunnilingus, and sexual positions, if it mattered. Perhaps, on sight both were ready to excute and disappear. You may be wanting to deliver the extra, and reiprocated as well, but to him it was no matter.
On the next such session, allow time for extras and initiate moves "silently". Tell him that you want to reward him. He would too!
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reader, anyluck112 +, writes (15 September 2008):
sometimes my bf i think gives oral without asking as a sign of being really generious
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2008): hey, thanks for the response. It didn't seem as if he wanted anything in return because right afterwards each time he was like "ok lets just go back and chill". The second time around though I stopped him and was just kind of like "well what about you?" and started going down on him...it seemed like he was pretty into it, im just confused as to why he wouldn't expect anything in return...
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (15 September 2008):
 You're worried about no-strings oral sex?
...WHY?! Enjoy it!
I wouldn't consider it weird. My boyfriend is the same way, and I with him. Often enough, seeing the other person turned on is a huge turn-on in itself.
How do you know he didn't want anything in return? Did you try and return the favour and get rejected, or did he simply not ask?
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