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writes:I'm single female w/no children. I have been dating this guy with 7 children for 4 months now. When we 1St started dating he stated he don't trust women and how his relationships never seem to last b/c of his job (bodyguard) and his children. I told him i will try to work with him. why? I was really impressed when i saw how active he is in all his children lives and the fact that he takes care of them. After dating him for two months i asked "what are your intentions" he was evasive with the question. That led me to believe he have something to hide. I waited and brought the question up again and he said "lets go with the flow and take it day by day". Presently, he's starting to express hisself and want to spend more time with me. Should i contiune to give this man a shot? Confused please help me, PLEASE!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, SimpleOne  +, writes (31 August 2010):
Depends on whether you want children or not. Do you want to give birth? If so, walk away. If not, do the day-to-day. It's all about give and take!! Equality of the right kind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2010): Yes, continue to see him. However, continue to see other men, too. He is not committed to you, so you shouldn't wait around for him. Get out there and live your life and meet new men. Maybe he'll come around and maybe he won't. Either way, think about what you really want from a relationship. Is this what you really need?
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (31 August 2010):
 If I had SEVEN children I'd be reluctant about making any kind of additional commitments for myself whatsoever... wouldn't you?
In my opinion he's certainly justified in just wanting to "go with the flow" so I doubt he's hiding anything or stringing you along... However long you're willing to wait for him is really up to you... but I think that pressing the issue probably won't do a damn thing except frustrate him.
Best of luck :)
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reader, sammi star +, writes (31 August 2010):
 four months isn't really that long and I don't necissarily think it's a bad idea to be taking things one day at a time at this stage of your relationship.
He's obviously been hurt before so it's no surprise he's reluctant to jump in feet first and promise cvommitment to you, he's just trying to protect himself and as long as you're understanding of that he'll open up with you more and more.
You say he seems keener lately and is wanting to see you more so I think you have your answer. He clearly likes you a lot but just wants to take things slowly so if you care about him then allow him to take things at his own pace and your relationship will be stronger for it.
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