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writes:ok, so me and my boyfriend are going to a monster truck show and he wants to have sex during our outing (6:00 PM- about 1:00 AM) He says that he loves me and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I just feel like losing my virginity on an outing with his parents (of whom are driving us, but will leave us be most of the time) is a bit weird. I also am wondering about were exactly this would take place..... So i am wondering what you think about this... interesting right? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey guys and gals! i wanted to say thanks to all who have replied to my story here, you guys helped a lot! and i thought i would tell you what happened.
Ok so i talked to him about it and he is totally cool with waiting and on top of that, he was more romantic than ever on our way back. he is wonderful. and i thank you guys for helping me in this situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008): dont do it. you will regret it.
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reader, Seven +, writes (15 June 2008):
1st off if he really loves you like he says he do...then he'll wait for when you're ready...i told my boyfriend today that i wanted to wait and he said he'll wait for me...let him kno how u feel....if he doesnt wanna wait then that means that love and spending the rest of his life with u stuff is all just bullsh*t...so make sure u find out if its tru love or not....
good luck ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): You're not ready.
You're not even old enough in the first place. Please believe that I'm not just uptight about sex and trying to take your fun away when I say this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): please, do not do this if you're having doubts about it. if you're not ready for it yet, then just tell your bf. he should understand. don't do anything you don't want to do yet. you're still so young so don't rush into anything. it is a little wild that he wants to do it there but that's your choice. if you do feel you're ready and want to do it please be safe. good luck & take care. xx
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reader, lotsofgiggles123 +, writes (13 June 2008):
 well i also think its a little weird as well but it all depends on whether you want to lose your virginity or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): First things first- my main advice is that you only do what you are completely 100% sure you want to do and that you are comfortable with. And also to use contraceptives if you have sex. I know how you feel about it being weird if its an outing with his parents, I don't like doing anything at my boyfriends house if his family is home. As for it being a public place- that would be a definate no if it was me. Sex should be a private intimate thing, at least for the first time. I mean, where does he think you're gonna do it? In public toilets? Haha. Well, I just think you should do whatever you feel happy about, if you are comfortable with his proposal then sure but if not then tell him that! Good luck xxx
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (13 June 2008):
 Um, ew, I mean, do you really want to look back on one of the 'big events' in your life and have to remember that it took place at a monster truck rally near thousands of people and with a very good chance of being caught in the act by his parents?
Seriously, that would not have been my choice. And you do have a choice in this, you know. You have the choice to say 'no, that's not what I want, that's not how I want this to happen. NO.'
You're still young and legally underage. There's a reason why there are 'age of consent' laws, to prevent teens whose bodies have matured but whose mental reasoning skills and development have not caught up with that physical maturity. Yes, you might feel ready, hormones and body quite busy and horny, but you might not have the capacity yet to deal with the consequences of sex yet.
And there are a lot of consequences that could ensue.
He could be a bit too proud of himself afterwards and tell all his friends, or even just one or two. Then word spreads, and EVERYONE knows what happened and what you did. And you'll get teased by the idiotic and approached by the mindless for a 'go.'
Your parents could find out, and your mother and father will be so disappointed in you and feel like they've failed you in some way. They will regret your lost childhood and keep a really tight watch on you from now until you graduate high school.
Your chosen form of contraception could fail. You could become pregnant and have to make some really adult choices.
If you don't want this to happen at a monster truck rally, then say NO. Please, try to think ahead to your future self, when you are say 23, and out of school and working and making your own way in life. Will you be happy to look back on this moment and say, 'gee, I made the right choice. I have no regrets whatsoever.'
I think you do know the answer to this, so choose wisely, and don't give in to anything you don't want to do. No matter how much he says he loves you.
Take care.
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reader, jay12toes +, writes (13 June 2008):
 how long have you been going out? in my opinion, couples should wait at least 6 mounths befor there first time. also in my opinion, anything less then 17 is too early to be haveing sex. as a test i think you should tell him, that you dont want to have sex until your married. if he leaves you, then you will know thats all he was after, but if he stays with you then you can sleep with him when you feel comfortable with it..... just dont let your first time be at a truck show.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (13 June 2008):
 "He says that he loves me and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me"
Let me translate this for you from 'guy talk' into 'girl talk'. By the 'rest of his life', he means his 'life up until he has sex with you'. Once he's had sex, then he's most likely on to a new life.
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reader, LazyGuy +, writes (13 June 2008):
 You got to admire that guys balls.
Might try asking my girlfriend to do some anal sex in the half-time of tonights soccer match. Good idea you think?
If you feel ready to have sex then there is no harm but I could think of better places for a first time then a huge event. It would be novel, even intresting to do it there but if you consider that for most girls the first time hurts and is at least uncomfortable then... well.
There are some couples who marry at an event or place that means a lot to them. Getting married on a firetruck has a certain charm. Loosing your virginity on one... I don't know. As a guy sure, but first times don't hurt for guys unless you really screw up the screwing.
Basically, intresting idea but if I were female and was facing a first time I would tell him to take a hike.
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reader, Miss williamz  +, writes (13 June 2008):
 My dear dont rush into losing your virginity.not cause he tells you all those sweet things he will get you open up.n another thing that thing happens spontenously so my advice give yourself time until yo feel your completely ready.Have you tried to see the negative side of it.what if you lose it and he dumps you.that like double tragedy.you lost it and you have lost him too.so think 1st.and sex in a relationship is like the ice sugar on a cake.why dont you stablize your relationship 1st then once you feel you stable enough go for it.another thing what if the parents bust you guyz how will they see you?they wont think that this days everyone does it.they will mistake you so think 1st
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): I think you are very wise to have doubts about this.
This guy might "love" you now, but he is a bit young to make a life long commitment; He want to get into your panties; and frankly you are young to; why rush?
At some truck show?
I think you should tell him, that you want your first time to be more special, something you will always remember with fond memories; tell him that you are not in a hurry, you will wait for when you can create a more suitable opportunity.
You can have sex for the rest of your life, but that first time you will never have again, do not spoil it!
Do not let him pressure you into this with all the promises or love talk, be strong!
If he really loves you, he will respect your wishes.
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (13 June 2008):
 Yes, TasteofIndia and sofiamorgan have got it! It's the wrong time for you. And all this love stuff and spending whole life together concerns me as well. Just make sure he is not just after your virginity. I fell for that line a number of years ago to my regret. Hannah xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): It all comes down to this:
Do you want to lose your virginity to him, and in this manner or not?
If not, don't.
If you do, make damn sure he uses at least two condoms and that you both understand the risks and be discreet about it. You shouldn't have to deal with the extra baggage of the fear of getting caught your first time.
I mean, we all like a bit of kink to spice things up, but the first time isn't about that. The first time is MEANT to be about emotion and trust. This sounds like anything but.
Oh and treat the 'I love forever' with a grain of salt at his age. Rarely does this come true for first loves, in this day and age at least.
Flynn 24
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (13 June 2008):
 Yeah, I'm not so sure that I would be dying to give up my virginity at some monster truck show with his parents around. This sort of sounds like some pretty meaningless sex. Memorable, yes (who could forget such a horrid first time??), but not exactly thoughtful. Your first time will probably be a little awkward, perhaps painful, and will take time and fun. I don't think you'll find any of that where you're heading.
I'd tell your boyfriend that a monster truck show isn't going to do it. Your first time should be amazing. not rushed and weird.
Yeah.... I would tell him "thanks, but no thanks".
Good luck, sweetness!
xx India
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