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writes:I have a male friend of almost two years who I'm pretty sure has been interested in me the entire time. We've been getting closer and in the last month he's been up front about his feelings for me. We've slept together a couple times since then which has been great (no sex). We have great conversations, and before he even said anything to me about trying for something more than friends the thought had crossed my mind. We have a lot in common and my friends like him. He has told me that he wants to be in an exclusive relationship with me, but I am not ready to agree to that yet since I need some time to see what the relationship would look like on a romantic level. My one hang up is that I start to feel my attraction wane whenever he gets super nervous/awkward which he does on occasion, and now that this is all going on his nerves are quite understandably even more amped up than normal. So I guess I have two questions: 1) How can I help him to calm down and feel more confident? 2) Is the way I'm feeling a sign that this can't work?I'd really like it to, we're great friends and the physical part is probably the best I've ever had, but how do I get over this? Can I? Reply to this Question
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reader, Markingbad  +, writes (24 October 2009):
 You have lost me by first saying that theres been no sex then saying the physical part is the best you have had. Maybe you should find out where you stand before jumping into bed with him. This may seem innocent enough to you. But dont expect all your future boyfriends to buy it.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 October 2009):
It's a sign that you need to get to actually know him more before you can make a decision. You've always know him more as a friend, not as a lover. Gently explain to him that you need time to get to know him on a more romantic level to avoid any future hurt. Hopefully, he'll understand and listen. If he doesn't, then be careful, because it will show that he's perhaps in too much of a hurry.
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