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anonymous
writes:I work in a place that as long as customers aren't around we don't act very professional.One of my managers seems to have taken a fancy for me. He talks alot to me, bumps into me alot or touches me (hair... side... back, nothing crude).But he also jokes around alot with me and the other employees... saying that he's going to marry me, that I've flashed him (and he's tried to get me to flash him), and that we've had hot and heavy sex. I'm interested in him but I'm not sure if he wants to really screw around or not.
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reader, tux +, writes (24 October 2009):
 You use the phrase... "nothing crude" and yet he has a lot of crude behavior.. saying that you've flashed him, tried to get you to flash him and said that you';ve had hot and heavy sex... That alone is sexual harrassment... not to mention the bumping into you and touches you... whether it's the hair,side or back or whatever, then that is still sexual harrassment and is often frowned against.
You may not see it as such, but that is exactly what those touches are.. and personally if the other management saw that, they should have put a stop to it.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (24 October 2009):
 He wants to screw around. I wouldn't be flattered - he is a boss guilty of sexual harassment and disrespecting colleagues. Imagine if you didn't fancy him and you had to put up with this in the workplace. It is inappropriate behaviour and he is abusing his position as the boss to amuse himself with his workers. I am sure the company directors wouldn't be too impressed! You are in a no-win situation in this job unfortunately. If you have sex with him then he will have got what he wanted and move onto the next target (and you still have to see him in work afterwards). You will be talked about by work-colleagues and get no-where fast in the company. Or you say no thanks to his amorous advances and then he will eventually get frustrated, decide you are frigid (standard self-protection strategy for Mr Ego who hates rejection) and find a reason that you are disposable in the workplace. I would say you need to quietly look around for another job - not easy I grant you in today's economic situation - as this could end up as a right miserable situation for you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 October 2009):
Sounds to me like he's interested in sex and nothing else. He talks about you flashing, and how you had sex. Why didn't he invite you out for a drink? Don't bother with himm, he wants to use you and that's it.
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