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writes:help i dont know wat to do!!!hi i am only out of a 5yr relationship because my partner is moving to canada when he finishes uni. i would go to but i have 2 yrs to do first. we were set to plan a wedding then he decided to go back to where he used to come from. he wants me to go over a christmas to see him then move over in 2 years when im done at uni but im not sure if he will wait for me. i was his first real girlfriend and the first person he slept with but i dont know if that is enough to make him wait for me. can i have your opinion please.
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reader, keepitreal03  +, writes (11 April 2009):
If u guys planed to get married then nothing should come between u guys. But I can see why your worried u feel like he will mess up because he will see a lot of new women. But u gotta trust him. But keep ur guard up because it does happen. But I feel u should finish school to. Dont follow him until your done. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009): Don't put yourself through that mess. Long distance relationships are difficult - I've been in one with similar conditions as yours, and I married him two years ago. Now I want out. I shouldn't have gone through all of that for him. He really asked too much, and I can say now it was very selfish of him to ask for so much from me. If he really loved me for me, and not because he needed so much security, he would have let me go when he left so I wouldn't be put through hell. If things are meant to be, and you end up spending the rest of your life with him, then it will happen regardless. Don't tie your foot to a rock when you know it's going to get tossed in a raging flood. If you are meant to have the rock, you'll find it when flood goes out, and you won't have to drown in the process.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): If he loves you, he will wait. If he doesnt wait.. it wasn't meant to be. Please stay and finish uni otherwise it may not work out anyway then youll regret not finishing uni. And finishing uni really is a big deal in my opinion. Explain all this to him and if he truely loves you he will understand and wait for you.Hope that helps and things work out.
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (10 April 2009):
if he has asked you if your willing to go over etc then i think hes more than willing and the question is more like will you be willing to wait? Hes asked a lot of you and im sure in time it will work out, you have the support of each other but as time moves on you need to reach a descion. You have shared a lot together and you sound like you mean a lot to him, his first everything, he wouldnt ask you if he didnt mean it. 2 years is a long time and huge commitment but with marriage having already been an option im sure you will sort out a very happy future together. Best of luck
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