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writes:Hi I have been with my baby's mom for 6 years. Recently we have been having alot of problems. I have found wierd numbers on the cell phone bills, she has been coming home. I know Im no angel my self. I get really angry. Recently I found out my mom has cancer. I have asked my daughters mom to try work things out. But she said theres no hope and she wants out. I have truely tried everything to keep us going. I dont want my daughter to suffer for our mistakes. I truly love my daughters mom. I dont know what else to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, MissKin  +, writes (10 April 2009):
 you can't make her stay. let her move on.
focus on your family.
try to make it a civil break up - the worst break ups are the ones that cause a lot of negative feeling and drama, this is what will harm your daughter further - depending on your daughters age, try to explain it to her in some way that she can understand - but be sure to tell her that you both love her, and she does not have to choose between you. the more adult you act, the more sensible and reasonable you are, the easier things will be.
sometimes we just have to let go. and if it's meant to be, things will find their own way.
sorry to hear about your mum. my deepest apologies. don't let a really messy break up make things even harder.
best wishes x
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (10 April 2009):
It seems that altough hard to accept she has reached her descion. I know its hard but right now your head needs to be in the right place, you have a lot of people looking at your for support and guidance. Your mother and your daughter she be your top proirities right now and although your hurting if you handle this well eventually you will end up with great happiness itll just take time.
You cant change a persons set opinion, once they know you and they come to a conclusion its dificult if not impossible for you to change that. She has been honest in that she wants out of the relationship, try talking to her but respect what shes saying. Do everything in your opwer to stop your daughter from suffereing anf give her mother what she wishes, if she is unhappy right noe then put a stop to this, let her go and one day she will thank you or it, as will your daughter. Be the stronger person now as your role as a son and a father is doubled and you are needed most. There doesnt seem a lot else you can do, try and focus on what you need to be doing now and where your head needs to be at, its really hard but you need to do it for yourself, your daughter, your mother and the woman you love.
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