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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I'm in real trouble please help me quickly, I'm married to a nervous guy who spends money around and at the end of the month he wants me to pay the rent; I'm not working so he wants me to sell my jewellery to pay his debts which he took from the bank before our marriage and he didn't tell what he did with them. We kept our wedding simple to avoid debts.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (2 November 2008):
 What a JERK!
What he's asking for is obscene. Don't you dare, don't you dare sell your jewelry. Next he'll be asking you to sell your hair like they did to Fantine from Les Miserables. Then, your teeth... then he'll pimp you out to some guy that sings "Lovely ladies..."
Unless you have a daughter named Cosette who needs medical care, and you were dismissed from your job by a cruel foreman, don't sell ANYTHING of sentimental value.
I know this is late but mas vale tarde que nunca (better late than never).
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female
reader, penta  +, writes (6 September 2007):
 If you have someone you trust, move your jewelry to their location and tell your husband that you sold it (and give him a tiny/small/measly amount). Then don't let him know you have anything.
This guy sounds like a loser. Lose him!
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female
reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 September 2007):
 Tell him to get a second job.
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male
reader, duce00 +, writes (6 September 2007):
 Cant you see a trend here?
HE'S USING YOU!
You will never be able to sell enough jewelry or give enough money or make enough sacrifices. These kind of people allways want one thing. MORE!
Dump him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2007): Hunny,
No No No, Ive been there and cleared all my ex husbands debts and then he didnt have no worries but I felt he should have been resposible for his own debt problems, This is a problem that occured before you were married, Did you no then? As I did not and thats how they found him as when we married they new were we were living.
If he is a man he would not and should not expect you to bail him out he would work his own money problems off, These things of yours may hold precious memorys for you.
Plus he shouldnt expect it from you full stop, As whats to say as soon as this debt is payed he wont go out and get another one thats my advise love, put your jewellery in a safe place and just explain your feelings sweetheart if he canot understand then im afraid he isnt much of a man at all.. I learnt from my mistakes, my husband did it again and when I finally got him out after yrs of this and other stuff I was left with a loan of 10 thousand to pay off all his. Think very carefully about your future love TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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