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*agic_3
writes:My boyfriend loves me and I know he thinks I'm beautiful, he tells me every day, but he always makes comments about how he thinks my bestfriend is hot. she is absolutely gorgeous in every possible way..he drops hints that I need to be skinny like her or dress like her dye my hair the same color..stuff like that. It makes me feel terrible but I never say anything I just laugh or smile when the subject comes up. Is it bad that I feel hurt by it and also jealous of the way he looks at her? And should I say something to him or keep ignoring it?
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reader, Magic_3 +, writes (11 May 2011):
Magic_3 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks you guys!! This helped a ton and made me feel a lot better about myself!:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2011): This has nothing to do with your best friend and all to do with him being an idiot and trying to wind you up. Turn the tables. Tell him you really like the look of his brother/cousin/friend too and maybe he could dress and act like him a bit more. See how he likes it. Its very immature behaviour and his way of getting a reaction out of you. Be the better person and show him you are not taking this any more from him.
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (10 May 2011):
 Ugh. If he really loves you, he'll accept you the way you are. Tell this to him, and then if he continues to bring it up, dump him. Then he can finally get with your best friend.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (10 May 2011):
When it comes up again, I think you should tell him: "I really like my best friend and I'm well aware you think she's pretty. But why do I need to lose weight to become as thin as she is, dress the same way and dye my hair the same colour? Because that's not who I am, that's who she is. Is she who you really want?"
Seriously stop reigning yourself in and cut the crap with this guy. He might not be intent on hurting you, but he should atleast be made aware of it.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (10 May 2011):
 Say something! That just isn't right! He seems like he's openly trying to turn you into your best friend! In a relationship, you either accept your partner as they are (in terms of appearance and most aspects of personality) or you end the relationship. Talk to him about it, especially since it is hurting you like this.
I hope that helps.
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