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writes:Hi. I'm seventeen, nearly eighteen and my boyfriend and I just started having sex about three weeks ago (it was my first time). I am not on the pill, but he has been using condoms (100% properly). I was worried about pregnancy so on February 29th I took a pregnancy test, resulting negative, and I also took one on March 1st, resulting negative. It is now March 5th, and we have had sex since the test and my period is two days late. He's always very careful and makes sure the condom is never broken and that it's on properly and securely, so I'm 99% sure that I'm not pregnant. But I'm still going out of my mind worrying. I've heard that it's possible for a first time to effect the regularity of ones period, and I'm wondering if this is true? Also I have been fairly stressed and I have missed my period before because of stress. I've also been having my regular period symptoms (cramps, back pain, poor sleep, etc), however, no period. I plan to take another test this saturday, but I'm just hoping for some advice, and just some more knowlege. I know this probably sounds ridiculous, but I'm just panicking. Please help.
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reader, pamplove  +, writes (15 March 2008):
i am 14.
this is the same problem with me. me and my boyfriend started having sex about a month ago, and my period was meant to be 4 days ago. i started my period about a year and 4 months ago so i hope theyre just irregular, but i have been extremely worried i am pregnant. my breasts have got a lot bigger now and they feel kind of hard when i touch them. do you think i am pregnant?
and if i am then how can i get an abortion without my parents knowing?
please help.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (5 March 2008):
 relax hun!!! you are not pregnant! you mentioned that you have had irregular and late periods before due to stress - and what are you doing now? you are causing yourself unecessary stress here, so your period is late! and yes, it is possible that when you start having sex, your period can become affected. so stop worrying, you are just going to stress yourself out more and more for no reason. you and your boyf have been practicing safe sex and are careful so you are ok.
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (5 March 2008):
 if you stress and/or think you're pregnant, it WILL cause your body to make your period late and even give you symptoms. x
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reader, sexi  +, writes (5 March 2008):
 Hi
Due to your stressing your period is late.Just relax and calm down. You have taken loads of pregnancy test and i am sure that is you were then it would have showed it to you.Just relax for a couple more days.
Regards,mail me if you wanna chat
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reader, jaq +, writes (5 March 2008):
 i wouldnt worry because condoms are 98% safe and i would highly doubt your preg, its just playing on your mind thats all
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (5 March 2008):
 Don't forget to use condom-safe spermicidal lubricants! They give a little bit more peace of mind.
And stress can certainly upset your body's natural hormonal rhythms, so try not to worry too much!
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reader, Juppy +, writes (5 March 2008):
Hey,
Its weird because everything you just said sounds like me, i just rescently lost my virginity and i was so worried i was pregnant but i think its because sex is new too you and of course your going to worry!. Weve heard so much about sex from school, college, uni and friends and family weve heard all sorts so its not suprising that weve been worried. If your worrieng your probably most likely too miss your period but its simply because your stressed. Condoms are the most effect form of contraception and to be honest if you think that its been used effectively it will most probably be likely that your not prgnant however if your stil unsure then just take a preganany test. Its good to be precautious. I think its just natural really.
hope its been of help
xxx
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reader, Lucy2118 +, writes (5 March 2008):
 I wouldn't worry, there's always a worry when people have sex, as your only 16 your periods could be irregular, so i wouldn't worry. I can relate to your story, i had the same problem i couldn't get it out of my head that i could be, i wasn't and i don't think you are either.
Hope this helps.
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reader, atarisrocks +, writes (5 March 2008):
 the stress is making it later
get yourself on the pill just to be extra safe next time
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reader, Honey Sweet +, writes (5 March 2008):
 hey.
Theres not much to worry aabout. Periods are irregular all the time. As long as you stay safe and regualy taking tests., You will be okay.
Honey sweet.
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (5 March 2008):
I think it is unlikely you are pregnant. The advice of phiatiger is spot on and certainly if you start the pill and continue to use condoms it will reduce the risk of pregnancy even further. Plus with the added advantage of more regular periods you will be able to predict better when the next one should start.
I know I am a guy, but with a very large family full of women and me one of the few guys, I have had the opportunity to learn.
Relax, it will do you a lot of good. Accept that you are doing all that you can and just enjoy this new relationship.
Good luck.
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reader, rubyx +, writes (5 March 2008):
I had the exact same worry as you when i had a boyfriend! We used extra safe condoms and made sure the condom was on properly although i still worried and took several pregnancy tests when my period was late. One time i was late for about 3 weeks i was going out of my mind. Periods are not always regular. Don't worry :) now i look back and think how silly i was worrying so much
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008): This has happened to me, especially first times with new partners. It is definately the worry and stress that causes it. Try to relax, you have taken precautions - well done you! Perhaps it might be worth going on the pill aswell if you are going to make yourself ill with worry, it will also help to regualte your periods so you will be less likely to miss any. Hope this helps x
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