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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes: i have been with my boyfriend for 10 months, the problem is that he takes care of his friends all the time he buys things for them to eat, if they have a football game he pays for them to play, if they are short on money he helps them out! but when it comes to me never does that i cannot remember the last time we went to dinner or even had dinner at home! when he comes out from work he goes over to their house plays video games and eats over there! money he gives me told to do what i want with it he will take the last that i have to help on of his friends out! i am being selfish, i keep asking him where do i fit into his life? am i priority? what do you guys think i should do?
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reader, visione +, writes (29 January 2010):
Approach him about this topic... it's been 10 months! Was he like this from the beginning? He probably got used to having you around and no longer wishes to work for your attention and such. You are kind of being taken for granted - a lot of people do this when they get further into a relationship and get really used to having each other around... they kind of forget to appreciate what they have.
Remind him why you're still around, and if he doesn't put in any effort to make you feel wanted/special/etc then you might have to move on. You can't buy time or love with money!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (29 January 2010):
You're not the priority I'm afraid. I think you need to tell him how you feel about this. If he doesn't change, then he's just not worth the time. You need to talk to him and tell him you feel bad about all this and the fact you don't seem to be important.
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