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*ngel amy
writes:hia, so there's this guy, and he is 19 and i am 15. Yeh i know the age gap aint great but please dont say anything about it. basicly, he lives in the place i go on holiday - but i go there like 6 times a year so its kinda like a second home. and since i was like 13 i always liked him and thought he was so hot and all tht stuff but 2 years ago i actually got his number and he always said how prettty i was and called me beautiful and stuff so obviously i was so happy. the time went on, and over the year i met up with him and he was always so nice to me but made me think he was interested more than a friend, and hugged me so much and kissed me sometimes. i fell in love with him basicly. and he's told me alot before he loves me too. but when i even mention a relationship he clams up, and once i even sed to him "what would u say if i asked you out" and he sed that he would say yes so i did ask him out and then he sed "no, its cause im nt good for u u cn do betta than me" i was so confused. its like 3 years now and everytime i go down on hols i fall for him time and time again i just cant help it. i jiust dont know where i stand, he stil flirts and hugs me loads and gets jelous wen other lads talk to me, but he dnt seem interested in other ways :| help!!!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 February 2010):
He's messing you around. It gives him a kick to know you fancy him, and it's more likely he'll end up trying to use you. As he says, you can do better
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reader, angel amy +, writes (1 February 2010):
angel amy is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks lot for your advise :)
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reader, loops +, writes (1 February 2010):
You aren't going to take this well but hes probably just enjoying your company and saying what you want to hear. He's 19 and although yes the age gap is only 4 years I imagine the maturity level and what you are both looking for are completely different.The fact you are under the age of consent may be a huge factor in this.
If he wanted to be with you, he would be, and if he truly loved you he would treat you well, not giving you hope and then dashing them immediately, he knows you like him, he knows probably that you are easily influenced, its very likely he is just telling you what you want to hear, and after 3 years he should have either spoke to you about it now if your age is a problem, or got involved with you
You can either carry on letting this guy mess you around, or you can be straight and ask him straight out, or simply stop flirting/ kissing/ hugging him and find someone worthy of your time who will give you respect and treat you well. You are very young, you have sooo much time to find a decent bloke, so dont settle for floating after a flake at 15.
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