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writes:My relationship with my friend is driving me crazy. We met a little over a month ago through a mutual friend while he was still dating a girl who is now his ex. Lately we have been spending a lot of time together going out, hanging out at my place, and he calls me frequently just to talk. We have shared a lot about or past and our daily lives and I feel very close to him emotionally.As you may have guessed, I am also attracted to him physically and we flirt a lot. Last week we both drank too much and we almost kissed. That night, he told me he was attracted to me but not ready to date anyone right now. Last night when we were out a mutual friend noticed us flirting and asked me if we were on a date. It felt like we were, but I denied it.He slept on my couch last night (after having a few drinks) and in the morning he asked me if we had made out. When I told him no, he said he had a dream that we did. It's clear to me that we are mutally attracted to each other, so why won't he make a move?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): Well, one of you was right. We talked about it (not concidentally right after he got a call from his ex). He just wants to be friends and he claims he did nothing to give me the wrong impression. Then he left, after acting confused about why I was upset. I feel like he used me so he wouldn't be lonely. I think this could be the end of the friendship. This sucks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): He's not into you if you want a male perspective on this. There are plenty of guys out there who will be so cut your losses now.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 March 2010):
He's not ready, that's why. He needs to be sure how he feels about you before he makes a move. He obviously cares about you a lot, certainly too much to just use you as a rebound. If and when he is ready, and he's sure he likes you, he will make his move. You need to give him time though.
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reader, Entirely Unique +, writes (21 March 2010):
 He's openly told you he's not ready to date anyone right now so I'm sure he's not made a move because he knows he can't take that move onto anything else right now so making a move would probably just complicate things or force something he's not quite ready for yet.
I would just enjoy your friendship right now and when its the right time for your friendship to move onto more it will do.
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reader, Luckie128 +, writes (20 March 2010):
Maybe he is still undecided and going through an emotional battle after the break up. The laughing and flirting may not be what he's feeling inside. Hey how about you make the first move? That'll make or break you guys.
Good luck
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