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writes:I graduated from college a few years ago, but I regret my choice in universities so much. You can't go back in time, but I would give anything to go back and do it all over again at a different university. I hate, hate, HATE the college I went to; almost immediately after I enrolled there I realized it was a mistake,and I should have transferred somewhere else, but now it's too late and I have my degree.I just feel this terrible void!!! I don't have any of these warm, fuzzy feelings that people are supposed to have for their college. I'm embarrassed about where I went to college, and I wish I had a sense of pride and identity instead. I don't have very happy memories of my time there; I went to a huge in-state public school where everyone was a number; I always felt lost in the crowd and most of the students were stuck up and snobby. A lot of the professors were unprofessional and uncaring and I felt like a number. If you were sick, and missed school, they didn't care; it was: "This will count against you." They were uncaring and unwilling to bend the rules, even when common sense dictated. It was so insulting the way they treated us... like misbehaving public school children and not adults. I'm afraid if I talk about this, I'll get all worked up, but I'm really upset about how they treated me recently. I've been searching for a new job, and asked to speak to a career counselor at their career center and they blew me off, saying that service was only for people who graduated within six months.So they won't stand by their graduates, but they were willing to take thousands of dollars of my money and now they basically tell me to fuck myself. I felt like nobody cared about my problems and that no one cared about me.I studied abroad in Mexico for a year and it was the best thing I ever did. I had an awesome time, and the school I attended down there was professionally run and they were a lot more caring. The kids were a lot nicer, too. I took "regular" classes (as opposed to classes just for foreign exchange students). Then I returned to my university here in USA and it was such a drag, back to being a number. I look back on my college days and I think, the only happy memory I had was study abroad. I didn't enjoy my time at my university in USA at all. If I could go back in time, I would definitely NOT go there. It's a horrible university!! I would either do all four years in another country or at least another state, or I would at least attend a private school.I can't go back in time, but now I have this void though. I wish I had an alma mater that I could be sentimental about, derive a sense of pride from. I have this void now. I feel very sad, knowing that I can't reflect on my college days and get nostalgic and sentimental. How do you fill a void like this?I also recently took a Tefl course and I am glad with my choice of Tefl courses. I tell people here that I have a Tefl certificate and they don't know what the hell that is.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (23 March 2010):
 I just wanted to say thanks so much for the kind words.
I am much more caring than some of my profs in college :)
Thanks guys :-)
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (23 March 2010):
I just wanted to say thanks so much for the kind words.
I am much more caring than some of my profs in college :)
Thanks guys :-)
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (23 March 2010):
I can't wait to Tefl.
I liked the school where I did my Tefl course... there was some stuff that I didn't like and would change but overall it was professional and a lot nicer than UNC-G (where I went in the states). At least I wasn't a number.
I'm really looking forward to teaching EFL :)
Thanks guys, those are some good points
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): Everyone has different experiences with college- some good, some bad. It's time to move on and start a new chapter in your life. Try to get in contact with a headhunting agency for jobs or search for Tefl jobs where you can teach abroad. Since you enjoyed Mexico, you can try to see if there are any jobs available there. Use your experiences from being "just a number" to make sure your students never feel like that. You sound like a very intelligent and caring person who will get very far in life. Best of luck to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): You got your degree so who cares if you didn't like the college? That's in the past. You fill the void by moving on!! Sometimes you just have to let things go.
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