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writes:Dear cupid I’ve been seeing a man for almost 6 years I’m now living with him he say he lost so I'm money and the first person he blames is me because we are the only 2 people live in the house but his son is always comes in as he please also have a key I feel like I should leave him for thinking so bad of me I never stolen any thing and it really hurts for him to jump at me like that
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reader, YouWish +, writes (30 April 2016):
 Well, unfortunately I know firsthand some parents whose adult children have stolen money and/or things from them. In one instance, it was prescription pain medication and money/valuables, and the parents did everything to try to stay in denial until it was impossible to do so (he was caught red-handed on video that a sibling set up to catch him).
It's the worst kind of theft, as it hurts those closest to you and is an act of extreme cowardice, banking on a parents' reluctance to call the police to press charges. In the example I gave you, the parent who NEEDED that medicine spent a couple of weeks in extreme agony rather than file the police report. But their son is no longer welcome on their property. Ever.
The son would be my suspicion. You LIVE with him for god sakes! Unless he's caught you before, which it doesn't sound like, I'd set up a hidden camera where your partner keeps his money when his son comes over. Your boyfriend wouldn't be able to remain in denial in the face of watching his own son steal from him on video.
Or, like other people have said, tell him to pound sand and leave him. I wouldn't put up with theft accusations either. I don't steal, and after 6 years, I'd take extreme issue with a guy who should trust me by now.
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (30 April 2016):
 WOW, isn’t that just showing you where his loyalty lays? His son has a key to the house and you’re the first target to blame, to point the finger at, and too accuse you of theft!? Is his son beyond reproach, so faultless in his eyes?
Leave if you are innocent, but do not give him the pleasure of going because you’re guilty of theft. Go because he is guilty of distrusting you after 6 years.
It would be interesting to know how your relationship with his son is... could he have set you up?
CAA
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reader, EFM94  +, writes (29 April 2016):
 I'd leave if I were you. I'd be truly hurt if my partner accused me of taking money. After 6 years he should know you inside out - especially if you live together. A key element of a relationship is trust... and he has just proven he doesn't trust you. If he is quick to jump to accuse you of something you haven't done then he obviously has no regards for your feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2016): Of course you should end the relationship....he does not know you. Unforgivable in my eyes.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 April 2016):
 It is hard to believe that you are together 6 years living together and he automatically blames you. For whatever reason he has major trust issues with you. I would be annoyed at him thinking so badly of you. If you have no history off this sort of behavior then I would pack my bags and leave.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 April 2016):
 Wow, his first reaction to not being able to find this money is to accuse you of theft? You, his partner?
I'd be looking for some place else to live and to end it.
A relationship with THIS level of distrust is not healthy.
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