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writes:tonight me and my boyfriend were watching a tv show and tara reid the actress was on it, he started commenting about how hot she used to be before her breast implants etc..then later during the show he mumbled, "tara reid is hot" and i said huh? sorry what did you say? and he goes nothing i was just mumbling. then later on the show they talk about her raspy voice and he goes "i actually like her voice"i only find this weird because he never ever comments on other girls in front of me. he only ever tells me i am gorgeous, sexy, perfect etc. do you think he is saying this to see if i react? i never comment on other guys saying they are hot etc.. he is a little insecure about me leaving him for someone else even though i would never even and always reassure him that i wouldn't leave him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): Talk about fit guys infront of him, see how he likes it.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 May 2010):
 Its not typical of guys to plot out semi-evil plans to try and trick girls, and no one would be able to know how you would react to any comment. If you reacted in a certain way I am quite sure he was unaware. He just said what he said for no reason other than spilling out what was on his mind. If you trust him you shouldnt think much of this as he has told you how hot he thinks you are. And if you have confidence you shouldnt jump at conclusions and think so negatively.
I say this was a harmless thing. The guy is with you, but hes not blind. He sees someone hot he will still think they are hot, regardless of how hot you are or if hes even dating someone. Being with a girl doesnt brainwash a guy into believing all other girls are ugly. They just usually try to give their gf's that impression.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): I shouldn't think so. Let it go before you cause a row over nothing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): Hello,
Let it go, it means nothing. Could be he wants to see your reaction.
I do that too comment on some men actors I find appealing.
If it was someone you knew then I'd worry.
Good luck
;D
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reader, person12345  +, writes (30 May 2010):
 Lol Prion! True true, she's kind of fugly. I don't think you should read too much into it at all. It probably means he's just comfortable enough with you that he doesn't feel weird making those comments. It doesn't mean anything at all. For instance, my boyfriend and I just had a long conversation about how hot Penelope Cruz is and how we'd both temporarily dump the other to have sex with her. Doesn't mean anything, just fun to comment on celebrities and their hotness or lack thereof.
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reader, Lostaslight islostinlight +, writes (30 May 2010):
You don't say how long you've been together. It could be that he is showing his comfort level with you. When two people are intially going out the guy hides his attraction to other women, out of politeness. Guys are always checking out other girls, make no mistake. But when the relationship is new at least a guy will try to hide this. Out of respect and love for his girlfriend he devotes most of his attention solely to her. However, as time goes on he may be more comfortable being more "himself". If I were you, I would view his comments as him trying to test the waters and see how pissed you'd get if he openly commended some other woman for her attractiveness. So yes, in a way it was to get a reaction.
Now, how you deal with it is going to set the tone for all future encounters where this may come up---places where scantily clad women may be EVERYWHERE, such as the beach, parties, etc. Just act like, "Yes darling. Tara Reid is a striking woman. Pass the chips?" Your reaction should read like it's true, that other woman is hot, but I'm way to hot to even feel threatened. If he keeps making comments about her, just react non-jealously. If keeps it up to the point where it's annoying change the subject. You are the queen of his world as far as he's concerned, and from what you said it sounds like he treats you pretty well, otherwise. You can't let him think that you can be made jealous by him drooling over some little flouncy thing. You are te hottest woman alive girl, as far as this man is concerned. You need to let him know you know that, because he's told you.
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reader, princess166 +, writes (30 May 2010):
princess166 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni only just found it strange because he never comments on other girls and i just thought he was doing that to get a reaction
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): She is a actress, it means nothing, If it was your friend he was talking about I could understand why you are taking it to heart. The guy is with you telling you that you're gorgeous.
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