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30-35,
anonymous
writes:this might be slightly trivial but it bugs the hell out of me and i dont know what to do about it. my boyfriend is really sweet, honestly, hes truly a nice person, wouldnt hurt a fly. anyways i met him in school last year and at the time he was dating this girl, and everyone knew that he was whipped. he was literally obsessed with her. and i dont blame him, shes the kind of girl any guy would want. but she walks over anyone and everyone in her life. we started dating about 7 months ago and him and this girl although over are still best friends. which would bother me but not to the point of asking for advice.. the part that bugs me is that she talks bad about me to him all the time and he never does anything to stop it. and it really confuses the hell out of me, i mean wouldnt it hurt him to hear someone talk bad about someone he cares about? so i talked to him about it and he says he understands and that if she ever said anything after that he would tell her to stop, and i think since then he has told her not to once. but i dont understand why i had to say it. i feel like he values their relationship so much that he doesnt want to screw it up by getting mad at her for saying bad things about me. am i expecting too much out of him? theyre still just as close if not closer than they were before. hsajkhfasjfh it hurts me :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2008): As a person who maintains good friendships with almost all my ex's I can tell you this:
Just because he talks to/about his ex & spends time with her dose NOT mean he values her over you at all.
You need to remember that they are friends now & that they both played & continue to play important roles in one another’s life’s.
However I can see why you’re upset at her talking about you…but if you’re boyfriend isn’t agreeing with her I don’t she where the problem lies.
Is she not aloud to have an opinion on you?
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reader, junebug +, writes (18 August 2008):
have u ever asked him if he truely just cared about u orloved u? He seems like he still is whipped over her and she is totaly just using him.do u and her get along? Maybe its time u look over ur relationship with this boy and decide weather u really want to be with him. I know damn well my man wouldnt be doing that. Good luck hon sorry if i was to harsh. Xoxojunebugxoxo
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reader, superbunny  +, writes (18 August 2008):
 To be honest, you're still quite young and so is he, and sometimes guys just need to be told these things. =]
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