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writes:Let me apologize in advance for the long posting. I met a guy through some mutual friends about a year ago. We were paired up in their wedding. That was the first time we had met in person. He seemed like a nice guy. We talked for a while at the reception. While we were talking, he put his arm around me. I was nervous and comfortable at the same time if that makes any sense. At the end of the reception, he asked if he could call me to make plans to get together the next time he was in town ( we live 2 hours apart). I told him yes. That was a big step for me, I've been asked out before but never accepted. There was just something about this guy that made me want to get to know him better. About two weeks later, we went to the movies. I had a nice time even though we didn't get to talk much. After the movie, he walked me to my car and asked what my schedule was like for the following month because he wanted to know if I wanted to go to a picnic for his work and if I would want to come to his place the weekend of his birthday. A bunch of his friends were coming to celebrate with him. I told him I would have to let him know. I really didn't feel comfortable enough to go to his place for the weekend since we didn't really know each other well enough. We stayed in touch over the phone. He invited me to his company Christmas party. I was actually considering going to it and then my father had a massive heart attack at the beginning of November. He was in the hospital in Critical condition in the intensive care unit. It was not looking good. He had to have open heart surgery for the second time but they had to get him stable enough for the surgery first. He had to be placed on a ventilator for 2 weeks. He was not doing well at all. During all of this "Rich" kept trying to call me. Of course I was focused on my dad and didn't return his calls. I finally sent him a text to let him know why I hadn't been calling him. He stayed in touch with my best friend to find out what was happening. I knew he was coming into town for Thankgiving to spend time with his family. To my surprise, he came to see me at the hospital and even brought flowers. We talked for a little while. He told me that if I had changed my mind about the Christmas party, he would understand and would not be mad. He also told me that if I needed anything or just needed to talk to someone that I could feel free to call him anytime no matter how late it was. I thanked him for coming and then he left.I thought about the party and decided that I needed to let Rich know that I wasn't going to make it. I sent him a text and told him that I had decided not to go because of everything with dad. I told him that it wouldn't be fair to him (Rich) if I did go because I wouldn't be good company. I wouldn't be able to have a good time because I would be worried about dad. I told him that I wanted him to have a good time at the party and that I was sorry that I wasn't going but I needed to be with my family. I even offered to pay him for the ticket he bought for me. I didn't hear from him for about 3 weeks. I thought that I had made him mad about the party. When I finally did get a call from him, he said that he completely understood my decision to stay with my family and was not mad at all. He said he hadn't called because he knew I had alot to deal with and he wanted to give me some time. We continued to talk occassionally on the phone. We have tried to make plans to see each other when he is in town. Timing has been bad for us. We talked last night and were able to make plans to get togther in two weeks when he is in town again and I am on vacation. Hopefully things work out this time. I do want to spend time with him and get to know him better. Who knows maybe we will only be friends but maybe there is a chance for more. My question is: Does he seem like someone who is interested in a relationship? My friends tell me they think he is just looking for sex since he has invited me to his place. My answer to them is, if he was just interested in sex, he would have found someone else by now that lives closer to him. He hasn't give me a reason to think that is all he is interested in. He hasn't done anything more that hug me goodbye and kiss me on the cheek. I think if he was looking for more, he would have tried to go further by now, right? Are my friends right about him ? Could I be lucky enough to have found a genuinely nice,sweet, caring guy? Tell me what you think.
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reader, Rogerramjet  +, writes (27 May 2009):
I don't know many guys just looking for sex who would bring flowers for your dad at the hospital. This guy sounds like he could be a good one!
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reader, jj. +, writes (27 May 2009):
fella sounds like he might be worth the wait...your right if he wanted some sex he would find it long before now..
so give it a chance and try it out...no one says you have to stay around.if it looks suspious then move on ,end of story..
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): He would have found someone else by now if he was just after sex. Not to mention the many things which appear to be respectful and caring on his side. If I was just after sex with a girl I wouldn't involve her in my life too much and he was already inviting you the the Christmas party and picnic.
MAYBE THIS IS ALL A BIG PLOY BY HIM but I really doubt it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): Nice story. But it's to early to tell to be honest.
I think personally though that your friends maybe right. But then again, Some guys will persue until that got what they wanted. Don't fall head over hills on this guy. and he ends up pulling the rug after you gave it up if you know what I mean....
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): I think your friends maybe a little judgemental here. I think so far, so good. You'll know more as you get to know him and date him. My bet would be he's interested in a relationship. So far he's been respectful and I don't see any red flags.
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