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writes:my fiance has split up with me for the 3rd time in 8 years, he said the relationship wasnt going anywhere and we always argue over petty things. we have 2 kids together and we seemed ok till last week when we had a little argument which sent him to move out. we keep in contact but he says its over for good this time and he also said he still has feelings for me and cares about me. The first time this happened he said exactly the same and he came back to me few weeks later, but am not sure if this is the same or not. i love him to bits and feel really down, i dont have many friends and family so i feel lonely. he talks to other girls on internet too just after we split up. i really want him back.i was told absence makes the heart grow fonder but wat if this time its actually over! please help me
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reader, mylilangel +, writes (23 September 2009):
mylilangel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjust found out that my ex is now moving to spain with his 2 brothers to start a new life! but he told me he was feeling down today thinkin whether to work things out with me or go to spain and he has chosen spain. what am i goin to do, he has told me this once before when we first split up for 3 weeks and he never went but i think this time he will go but im not sure anymore, i feel even worse and depressed than i did! plz help me
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reader, mylilangel +, writes (22 September 2009):
mylilangel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all the help! he is the type to leave when we argue too much but also the reason couples argue is if they spend too much time together or not enough. People are tellin me to give him time, but in this time hes chattin to girls on facebook and goin out with his brother who hangs round with lots of girls is that normal for men who have just broke up?
our kids wont be confused as i have a 4 yr old and a 6month old.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 September 2009):
You've got to be very brave and move on. He's going to hurt you again and again and again if you keep going through this cycle. I know you love him, but in time that will heal. (It really will). There are other guys out there who will be better for you. Be brave and move on. That really is for the best. x
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reader, mylilangel +, writes (22 September 2009):
mylilangel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut if he says he still loves me and cares for me why does he sound so calm like nothings happened and im the one who crys alot. i love him so much and want him back to work things properly. we only speak about the kids on the phone but if i ask him back he will just say no. but this has happened before, he said i will get over him and he doesnt love me but this time he still does love me. what can i do.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 September 2009):
Please think of your poor children. They're in the middle of this mess. They're going to be so confused. This is a relationship that isn't going to work, because neither of you really know what you want and all you do is argue. If you're splitting up over petty small things, then there isn't really any hope. Keep in contact with him for your kids' sake, but please try to move on. For your kids sake and your own. You're only going to get hurt more. x
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reader, alwayznd4eva116  +, writes (22 September 2009):
 yeah, this guy i talk to said tha same thing. we alwaysss argue ova petty thingsz nd wen he feels he cnt take it anymore, he goes, "Im done and i mean it this tyme" he even swore to his dead parents that he wuld never hit me up again. but two weeks lata, who am i hearing from?? lol. right now were in one of those arguments. its been about a week since we spoke, so im gunna jus give it some time and see if he comes back like he did all those other times. my friend even suggested that i hit him up askin hows he been but thats all. i dnt wanna do that because if he really meant what he said, then he probably wont even wanna talk to me. but i know hell respond to that. you know him more then we do, so jus think it throughh. if he always said it but never meant it, so then whatll make this time different? you should just give it some time. tha fact that hes yur fiance and ya have kids together makes it a lil harder for him to leave for good. even if hes tired of you (No offense) then hell be back for the kids. maybe then you could talk to him. i wish ya the best.
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