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writes:ok well,im only 14 but me and my bf where going out for nearly 7 months, at the begining of the relation ship wasnt very faithful to him, he found out about a few of the times that i cheated on him soon after it happened. and then for the next few months everything was fine, but in the last week, one of my best mates told him about other times i have cheated on him, he was extremly angry and i completely understand that, now i would never even think of doing anything like that again coz i really do love him. But he wants it to be over, even tho he still loves me. Apparently he says that he could never forgive me unless i do something amazingly big.. the problem is is that i have no idea what i could do.. any suggestions?? please i really want him bak and him to trust me again. :( many thanks xx Reply to this Question
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 * it will always come round and bite in on the arse if you're not faithful
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reader, typ3  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Well. For starters I don't think he should forgive you. What you did isn't the sort of thing you can ever truly forgive, unless he does it to you and you both forgive each other, but reality is that you're both angry for what the other did. So whatever you do you'll probably never get fully forgiven.But to answer your question. He uses this situation to get something to ease the pain. I bet it's sex related, most is that time in life. Ask him about a fantasy and make it happen for him, even though I would prefer if you just made a big poster of you loving him and put it out on the walls of your school.It seems to me like you are a bit young to be in a relationship when you can cheat on him while you say you love him, but I don't know the circumstances.Hope you don't need to make his fantasy come true, but thats my guess when he lai it out like "something amazingly big".
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reader, bubbloo24 +, writes (3 June 2008):
Hun, he's just using you now. If he wanted you back, wouldn't he have just forgiven you and carried on going out with you? He just wants you to chase him, and you will end up getting hurt even more by just trying because what ever you do to try and get him back, I can guarantee it won't be big enough for him.
Ditch him now and move on. By trying to get him back you're prolonging your pain. He's just using you now to get something outta you. Please end it, find someone else and be more faithful because it will always come around and bite you in the arse if you are.
Take care xx
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reader, nandisa  +, writes (3 June 2008):
Firsly if he is willing to forgive you there wont be conditions, that means he is trying to blacmail you, you have done something wrong of coz you are only 14, show him how sorry you are,sit down and talk to him but there is no need for him to make you feel empty like that,you might have cheated several times which is very wrong but that does not mean that he is perfecr he does not make mistakes,make him understand that it was a mistake and you will never do it again and bear in mind that trusting you again will be a mission, you are yet to earn his trust,If he stills insist on something big its time you let, we dont judge those will love, love conqueres it all, take this as a test for your love.
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