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anonymous
writes:My partner of 6yrs has never told me the truth from the start, when we first got together he said he was single and no children 6mths into the relationship I found out he had been married and had a 5yr old daughter he was brining up on his own after the divorce I also found out around the same time that he was married for the second time and his wife was expecting their first child they did not live together as he said the marriage was over just a couple of months after getting married she lived with her family but he visited and bought all the things needed for the baby. I believed him as I stayed over at his we had holidays with the child he was bring up so I had no reason not to.I then found out 2yrs down the line that he had slept with his 2nd wife several times while visiting the baby, I was devastated as we were now living together and I was helping to bring up his elder daughter I changed my job so I worked less hrs to enable me to do school runs etc i think he is still up to something as he takes his mobile phone everywhere with him even to the bathroom he never ever takes it out his pocket and he even charges it at work, his 1st wife took the daughter back to years ago and we are fighting a custody battle for her I stand by him in court and financialy help with the costs of this but something just isn't right he will not discuss it when I ask and said since I found out about him sleeping with her he has had no contact what so evr with her or the 2nd child but my heart tells me different Please Please give me some answers as to whether Im just being paranoid or should I be worried
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reader, JustKalie1010  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 Wow. Trust your heart, he seems like a horrible guy and all he does is lie to you. You shouldn't have to deal with that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): You really have to do yourself a favour and dump this man. Have nothing to do with him. End of story. How much more are you prepared to take from him? Your heart and head have to get together and say 'no more'. You are being used big time. Get out. Somehow you have to find the strength to do it for your own sake.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 You have chosen repeated over and over again to believe a liar. I doubt there is anything that I can say to comfort you on your trip down denial.
Perhaps a better question is Why you think so little of yourself, your career, your time and your own self worth that you invest your heart and all your time in a man who treats you like s**t.
Dump the cad, Keep the kid. Good Luck Hun.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (9 January 2011):
I'm amazed you've stayed with him for so long to be honest! This guy is shockingly bad. He has done nothing but lie and cheat from the start.
Firstly he lied about children and being married. Then he liked about being married for a second time. He had been cheating on you. Now he's in a battle with his wife for his child and is using your money up.
Should you be worried! Yes, absolutely! You should have been worried the moment you found out that he lied the first time all those years ago. 6 years of your life have been spent with a man who has treated you just dreadfully and who has used you and effectively mocked every good thing you've done.
I think rather than be worried, you need to leave and actually find a man who loves you. This guy really, really doesn't. At all.
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