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writes:Ok guys and girls I think I know the answer but I need input in case I'm way off base. I was dating a man for just a little over a year then he decided to call it quits. His excuse was I wasn't wife material. Ok Ok I admit I didn't take his criticism like an adult and like everyone else who's been dumped I traveled the whole heal a heart cycle. Fast forward. I'm dating a man who I'm more fonder of than the man who dumped me. I don't give him a second thought. Here's where the questions are. The other man created a fake account on the dating site that I used eons ago and contacted shortly after dumping me. He calls himself Ernie and I've been playing along and so has the man I'm dating because we're screwing with his head. My questions are am I wrong? Why is he stuck on stupid scamming to talk to me for months on end now when he dumped me? Exactly what is it that he wants from me? Should bust his bubble or continue laughing at the fool?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): Spend no more time on this ex. There is no point. Move on with your life and forget him
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): I can't imagine that still contacting your ex via a dating site makes your new boyfriend feel very reassured, even if you are both just screwing with his head.
I think it is wrong to mess with your ex in this way.
If you still derived pleasure from deceiving him, then maybe you took what he said about you not being marriage material too much to heart.
Yes, your ex obviously feels he made a mistake, and currently he may/maynot be playing the fool, but you are being a bit cruel by stringing him along and contemplating how to humiliate him. I can only think that your new boyfriend may judge you (even silently and even if he participates) for being deceptive and vindicitive.
If you take your new boyfriend seriously at all, I would forget about your ex, delete your account at the dating site, and don't worry about bursting your ex's bubble.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 January 2011):
No. You should cut contact and focus on your future. Your ex could very well be laughing at you because you're still in contact with him. So this is just two people scamming each other trying to get the upper hand and hurt the other.
You were treated badly by him, so instead of going to his level and wasting time on the internet, why not close your account and give all your attention to the new guy in your life.
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