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writes:i have a question that is mostly for guys..i want to start by saying that i am very aware that when a girl tells a guy she wants him to get rid of his porn, usually he just hides it..but in my case, i never told him how i felt about it, the topic was never brought up, but he claims he got rid of it on his own because he only has eyes for me (aint that sweet? :) ) anyways, should i believe him??
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reader, Odds +, writes (12 April 2011):
 Fair enough. If it's working for you, don't change a thing. Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have to say my standards are a guy who can meet me on my emotional needs, which beings im a girl, have almost everything to do with self-esteem. guys have alot of sex to meet their ego's, and girls want a guy who is completely satisfied with them alone. if my guy got rid of all his porn, because he's completely satisfied with me alone, then i can work with any so called "flaws" he feels he's got. its unconditional love, i want him, not his money, or not what most guys foolishly feel is an ideal man, i want a guy who makes me feel good about my self in ways that he dont even understand he does. its not what he tries to do to make me feel good, its what he does when he's being himself.
its sad that you, along with most other guys really believe that all girls want "brad pitt's."
in my opinion, the difference between a guys fantasy and a girls, is that a girl fantasizes about what all she wants her man to do to her.. and a guy fantasizes about doing all them things to a bunch of other girls besides her.
i respect your opinion though. i only asked because id like to know if i should be as flattered as i am with all of it, considering no one else would ditch the porn for me even if asked, and this one claims to have done it on his own without knowing i secretly was clinching my jaw over the years trying to except porn stashes. id shut up and except if he kept it, but he said he got rid of it and only has eyes for me, so of course im happy! quit peeing cheerio's buddy!
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reader, Odds +, writes (12 April 2011):
"ok, actually i dont get into the love novels. my fantasy is a guy who only has eyes for me. im sure alot of girls agree with me on this."
In your shoes, I'd hesitate to make this assertion. Any random guy with eyes only for you wouldn't do it, we all have standards. And most people, men and women, tend to find they have harsher standards than they believe once they actually start listing them out.
If it's not romance novels, it could be chick flicks, or rappers, or any other readily available fictional depiction of an ideal male (who knows, maybe you're really into Iron Chef). Bascially anything that you might be negatively comparing him to which no real guy could live up to - chick porn. Not just cute guys, but rich guys or guys who always know exactly what to say and do without being awkward or uncomfortable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok, actually i dont get into the love novels. my fantasy is a guy who only has eyes for me. im sure alot of girls agree with me on this.
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reader, wiseoldman  +, writes (11 April 2011):
Have you thrown out your romance novels in return?
How do you think men like being compared to those tall, wealthy studs who always have the right thing to say, always live in big mansions, have the most enormous....
yacht you've ever seen and just love being monogamous?
I always feel so AWFUL when I see a woman reading one on the subway, knowing I simply CAN'T measure up to these ideal men, and knowing that all women REALLY want is some 6'2" billionaire....blah blah blah, sound familiar?
Leave our fantasies alone, and we'll leave yours alone.
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reader, Odds +, writes (8 April 2011):
People still keep hardcopy porn?
Oh well, that aside, if he did it without prompting, he's probably telling the truth. Don't read too much into it, it's just a good thing.
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reader, iicandyxoxo  +, writes (8 April 2011):
 If he said he did .. i would believe him cause if you say that you dont beleive him pretty soon he iwll think you won't beleive anything he says, sooo my answer is i would beleive him , i hopee i helped aswell (:.
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reader, lemonyliz +, writes (8 April 2011):
Whether he did or didn't, he is with you and not with those porn stars and either way he clearly likes you a lot-- enough to consider your feelings in regards to things like porn and enough to try to make a gesture to show you how attracted he is to you and how much he cares about you. Whether he fully got rid of it or just put it away, I would say he probably isn't looking at it much anymore and I wouldn't worry too much over it, I would just enjoy that you have found someone who cares about you.
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reader, Adviceneone  +, writes (8 April 2011):
If a guy gets a new girl and its going good and getting serious, and he chucks out his porno stash without being asked or even given a hint to get rid of it that means its gone.If on the other hand the girls tells the new boyfriend to chuck his stash it generally just gets moved to another room or the garage. You can always tell if it's the garage cos we start doing lots of DIY projects on the weekends in the garage. Which just means making noise with tools while we look at our stash and play with our own tool. Your guy must really like you to throw out his stash without being asked!
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (8 April 2011):
 Don't over-analyse it too much. He told you that to make you happy and get a bit more of your trust, not to make you think too much about it and question it. From the smiley faces, he probably succeeded in his goal, so don't worry about it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011): Yeah why not?
Who keeps a porn stash these days anyway when all you need is a computer and internet connection? Or you can just turn on a regular movie, music video or his imagination and use them for the same thing.
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reader, Partyboy123 +, writes (8 April 2011):
 Hey,I would believe him, if he says he did, he probably did, if you find it, confront him... If my girlfriend told me to get rid of my porn (if I owned some), I would do it A.S.A.P, regardless of how I felt... because thats how much I care, and if he does care, you have nothing to worry about!Hope i helped!partyboy123
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